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The woman movement and God, a testimony: does God care about you?

Isaiah 49:15This is relevant today. Some women are still angry with God and with their issues that seem not resolved because of many man-made blockages. Please read on…

1 Corinthians 11:11 Nevertheless, neither is man independent of woman, nor woman independent of man, in the Lord. 12 For as woman came from man, even so man also comes through woman; but all things are from God.

a fifty percent perspective

romans-122Some women are very angry. They decide to take matters into their own hands and walk down the street to make their voices heard. I know how it hurts or infuriates oneself when one feels that others are not listening, or worse, perhaps mocking or scoffing in their hearts. It hurts to be considered and treated as a second best or third best or not even a human who matters (in some societies). Gender, age, color, race, looks, nationality. All these matter to the physical world. Discrimination means her physical rights and entitlement are taken away from her because of her age, gender, looks, race, color or nationality (even if she has the right color, race, or looks). Indeed, in the fallen world, all men are not born equal. This is not a new issue. Some women may not know this, gender men are not born equal too. Have things improved since…

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woman issue (part three): what can one woman do?

a-godly-business-woman-lydiaI realize the subject is too big to handle in a tiny personal blog. When I read up more about women in nations where they are still being overtly ill-treated I admit I cannot use this blog to address big issues. I ponder over the matter and ask why I write this blog about women. Shall I quote more statistics of the inequality based on online sources? Shall I do a research over a period of two years just to be more in depth? Who are my readers and what do I hope to say to them and why? I then realize I cannot do a study and write a thesis. My targets are not thesis readers. This is only a personal blog and I can only focus on what I know and believe as important to write about. Here are some of my own Q and A:

Q: why do you write this blog?
A: I am led in my spirit to write on this topic right now. I can feel an urgency because some women somewhere are going to make major decisions this year and they are looking for options to consider.

Q: do you honestly think you can influence lots of women this way?
A: honestly I do not presume anything about influencing people.

Q: then why do you write?
A: I ask the same question. The prompt I receive is I can write to individuals and not groups or masses. If only one woman ventures to this blog and reads the articles about women issues, I would consider it very worthwhile. Because she may have found the exact answer she is looking for.

Q: but you only presented your perspective and not inclusive of others.
A: yes. I know. I ask myself the same question too. I can choose to quote many different reports and write a thesis of course. But as I said earlier this is a personal blog and not a scientific journal. My approach is therefore very different.

Q: where do you find your materials to write?
A: I believe in knowing something intuitively (in Christian terms, hearing the Holy Spirit). I would know when I should write and on what topic. I receive a prompting inside.

Q: since the women issue scope is so huge how do you know what to focus on?
A: I have so far written two posts. The first one focused on assuring a woman of her spiritual worth in the eyes of God, and the second one touched on how a woman could shift her paradigm -a management tool I have used successfully. I have not thought out the third one yet. But I am still thinking along expanding the twin lines of building spiritual strength and how to become more effective in employment-related matters.

Q: do you realize you have limited your target to women who can read English and have access to this blog?
A: yes, I know. As I said earlier, this is just a personal blog and I am a blogger here. However, I still believe that there are some women who are making big decisions this year and want to know more options. So I pray this blog will present you with the options that you have never thought of but have been praying for.

Bible passages to ponder on:
Joshua 17:3 (NKJV)
But Zelophehad…the son of Manasseh, had no sons, but only daughters. And these are the names of his daughters: Mahlah, Noah, Hoglah, Milcah, and Tirzah. 4 And they came near before Eleazar the priest, before Joshua the son of Nun, and before the rulers, saying, “The Lord commanded Moses to give us an inheritance among our brothers.” Therefore, according to the commandment of the Lord, he gave them an inheritance among their father’s brothers.

Acts 2:17
‘And it shall come to pass in the last days, says God, That I will pour out of My Spirit on all flesh; Your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, Your young men shall see visions, Your old men shall dream dreams.

Acts 16:13-15 (NKJV)
13 And on the Sabbath day we went out of the city to the riverside, where prayer was customarily made; and we sat down and spoke to the women who met there. 14 Now a certain woman named Lydia heard us. She was a seller of purple from the city of Thyatira, who worshiped God. The Lord opened her heart to heed the things spoken by Paul. 15 And when she and her household were baptized, she begged us, saying, “If you have judged me to be faithful to the Lord, come to my house and stay.” So she persuaded us.
https://kingdomofgodaughter.wordpress.com/2014/10/15/a-godly-wise-rich-businesswoman-lydia/

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current woman gender issue and resolute for 2018 and beyond (part two): economic issue and key to success

Proverbs 31:2526What is a woman’s true worth? In my previous post I presented her spiritual worth. This morning I started writing this post to address women economic issues. But I was halted by a name while browsing through “The Economist“, “History proves that the capitalist system works. The countries endowed with free minds and private property rights have been the fastest-growing and the most prosperous.” “Free enterprise helped far more than feminism—household appliances ended drudgery. Above all: marriage was the best deal ever devised for women.” (Phyllis Schlafly)

Phyllis is a different breed of woman issue champion and speaks differently from others on the subject. She has a no-nonsense style and gets to the gist of the issue. Instead of making women to bear more economic responsibilities and financial burdens, she speaks plainly (my interpretation) to the men. “Man, we American women hold you responsible to upkeep us and the children. Man, be responsible! No, man, don’t ever think of passing the buck to us women!” Here are some of her classic sensible words of wisdom taken from various internet sources: My personal comments are in brackets.

The best way to improve economic prospects for women is to improve job prospects for the men in their lives, even if that means increasing the so-called pay gap. (Go for it, guys! it’s you job to aim higher -higher pay jobs!)

Women have babies and men provide the support. If you don’t like the way we’re made you’ve got to take it up with God. (Clear cut responsibility. Fair play, guys. Stop your nonsensical excuses. Just pay up.)

American women are so fortunate. When I got married, all I wanted in the world was a dryer so I didn’t have to hang up my diapers. And now women have paper diapers and all sorts of conveniences in the home. And it is the man and the technology that has made the home such a pleasant place for women to be. (“American women are so fortunate. ‘Sigh…” from women from other parts of the world…)

Since the women are the ones who bear the babies and there’s nothing we can do about that, our laws and customs then make it the financial obligation of the husband to provide the support. It is his obligation and his sole obligation. And this is exactly and precisely what we will lose if the Equal Rights Amendment is passed. (It’s a man’s obligatory responsibility issue, man! Woman, never give up your upper hand! It is his problem and not yours!)

Feminists have convinced themselves that any difference between men and women is oppression and that women in the United States are an oppressed minority. This is such a lie. American women are the most fortunate class of people who ever lived on the face of the earth. We can do anything we want to do. (Sigh…many third world women would wish they were Americans!)

Men should stop treating feminists like ladies, and instead treat them like the men they say they want to be. (Honestly, I believe a man certainly knows the difference between a man and a woman.)

The feminist movement taught women to see themselves as victims of an oppressive patriarchy. … Self-imposed victimhood is not a recipe for happiness. (I agree to not proclaiming negative words on ourselves!)

In colleges, there are no gender separations in courses of study, and students can freely choose their majors. There are no male and female math classes. But women generally choose college courses that pay less in the labor market. Those are the choices that women themselves make. Those choices contribute to the pay gap… (I agree with this as you can read my sharing on key to success below!)

I don’t believe that everybody should be paid the same. I believe in equal pay for equal work. (Well said, ma’am!)

My college degree is from a great university in 1944. I got my master’s at Harvard graduate school, completely co-ed, in 1945. My mother got her college degree in 1920. What’s the problem? Those opportunities were always there for women. (Thumbs up to these pioneers!)

What I am defending is the real rights of women. A woman should have the right to be in the home as a wife and mother. (I cannot comment because I am neither. But I do enjoy the regular lengthy visits from younger relatives ranging from infants to young adults. I consider them as God’s grace.)

If the woman picks the wrong man, that’s not society’s problem. That’s her problem. (This again relates to the success key of “careful choosing” and preparation as I share below about economic success.)

There are many choices out there for young women. And you have to ask yourself whether you want to model your life on the women who let life pass them by and who spend their lives thinking they were victims and that men are the enemy. Or do you want to have a happy life with a successful marriage and 14 lovely grandchildren. The choices are out there. (AGREED! Again a matter of making good and right choices of models.)

The United States is a giant island of freedom, achievement, wealth and prosperity in a world hostile to our values. (Claps!)

In a world of inhumanity, war and terrorism, American citizenship is a very precious possession. (SIGH from men and women from other nations, “Don’t we already know? Why else do you think we want to become your citizens/residents?)

The European nations’ loss of sovereignty to the EU should be a warning to Americans. It is a mystery why any Americans would support the concept of the EU. (Ma’am, certainly a mystery to many of us from the rest of the world too.)

Location is the key to most businesses, and the entrepreneurs typically build their reputation at a particular spot. (I included this quote because it is relevant to women as a start-up entrepreneur. It is the simplest and least costly way to test out your business plan and products. The best network is relationship based from locals already know you well, trust you and even support your business efforts. This is a wise beginner’s move before you try virtual network selling on internet.)

This blogger’s notes:
Last night I did a search and came upon the unique case of Rwanda women. Rwanda has the highest number (63.8%) of women parliamentarians. One reason was that after the genocide the president decided to make up for the shortage of men by giving women legal entrances to the previously closed doors of offices. Yet, the significant representation of women did not change the society and family. Here is an excerpt of an article:

“she returned to Rwanda to interview female politicians about their lives — not just their public positions but their private lives, with their husbands and children. She found with rare exception that no matter how powerful these women were in public, that power didn’t extend into their own homes.
“One told me how her husband expected her to make sure that his shoes were polished, the water was put in the bathroom for him, his clothes were ironed,” Justine says. And this husband wanted not only his shoes laid out in the morning, but his socks placed on top of the shoes. And he wanted it done by his wife, the parliamentarian.”  The women’s explanation was that they were Rwandans.
(https://www.npr.org/sections/goatsandsoda/2016/07/29/487360094/invisibilia-no-one-thought-this-all-womans-debate-team-could-crush-it)

The article about an African nation is not new as a few years back I have seen the same public-private discrepancy  in an Asian country which went through a genocide. Many women became sole bread earners and raised up their children. The matriarch had decision making authority and financial responsibility in the family. But in the community they remained silent, demure, graceful and uninvolved in the men’s social-political world.

Africa and Asia may be different from America. Phyllis McAlpin Schlafly née Stewart (August 15, 1924 – September 5, 2016) was an American constitutional lawyer and conservative political activist. She was known for staunchly conservative social and political views. She was well educated, informed and highly qualified and yet she remained contentedly married and enjoyed her role as a wife, mother, and grandmother. She has made a pertinent point: When it is a win-win situation between genders, why not continue the win-win?

In developing world, when a family man is unwilling or is unable to pay his dues and be faithful husband and responsible father, the woman steps into the role of the bread winner in lieu of the husband. This is a global generic issue throughout the history of mankind. In these cases the women show their willingness and capability to do so.

Some richer nations use public funds to subsidize the qualified poor and unemployed. However, Many developing countries cannot afford such luxury.  As men flock to work in the growing cities for better pays their families are left behind. Often the men’s wages can barely support their costly city lives and their wives and children have to survive on their own means. Some non-profit organizations give women and children hygiene/basic healthcare, education, vocational skill and trade training. Many women become sole bread-winners.

But what about the issue of unequal pay for certain groups of women, the economically poor, and colored (non-white) women in a predominantly male governing society?  I have no answer. I would suggest you read my following testimony carefully and perhaps find your own key.

A generic advice to both genders: Have I been given less pay or less promotion opportunities despite equal merits due to whatever prejudices or discriminations? My honest answer is “NO”.

  1. The reason was I chose my field of study and employers carefully. The key is: “Choose wisely”. Choose with planning and hard work of preparation accompanied by a lifelong positive outlook, enduring optimism for success and persistent learning new knowledge (always at a few steps ahead of others in the pack, man or woman).
  2. *In my case I believe in having a close relationship with God trusting in His grace (undeserved favor). It works. Ask God for the right job, geographical location, people group, employer, bosses, pay and promotion timing. Above all, maintain who you really are, a woman/man of worth in God’s eyes. The Bible has given good promises for success for both women and men. Use them. Be willing to shift your paradigm and relocate when you are called. “Relocation” is my second key word to success.
  3. What have you been doing in the past if you are one of those who feel that you are a loser because of your____________(race, color, gender, class, and whatever)? Have your past strategies worked? What has or has not worked for you/others? What can you do to make things work? Can you find good successful role models who has proven by bountiful good fruits to emulate? These are just some random pragmatic questions I would ask you to ponder on. If you are already a Christian, then my best advice for you is to pray and ask God to open up good choices and relocations (including the necessary training and equipping) as testified above.*

One cautionary word to those women who do not already know: “Don’t think that in a man’s mind/heart a woman is like a man.” You can try. But you are just not. I have asked women, “do you want to change place with a man?” So far the answer is often a strange look meaning,”What, are you nuts?” or a laugh and a definite “NO! No Way!” So I have concluded that women are really smart. We know our secret God-given gifts and advantages which men do not have. On the other hand, man, you too have your God-given gifts and advantages that women do not have. You just have to find out what your special gifts are.

Read King Solomon’s description of his capable mom: Proverbs 31:10-31, a capable and loyal wife, wise and good mother, successful and wealthy business woman who is fair to her workers and kind to the poor. Above all, her King son summed her up as “a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised.” 21 Bible verses were dedicated to record this wonder woman. What an honor!

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current woman gender issue and resolute for 2018 and beyond (part one): spiritual issue and true worth

matthew 12:4850A current woman gender issue. Here is a Q and A based on a gender-struggle interview between two women. For convenience and without hidden meanings, the randomly picked alphabets Q and P are used.
Q: sister, what is your goal for women for 2018 and beyond?
P: well, I would like to see more women in powerful and fearless position.
Q: please define power.
P: I mean more influential and not be brushed aside or portrayed as second class citizen.
Q: where in particular?
P: I mean in governments, politics, professions, education institutions, employments, corporations, organizations, various fields of human activities, societies and communities, churches, all other religions, people groups, developed nations, third world, families, clans, clubs, mass media etc.
Q: given such a vast global goal, how do you think you can achieve it?
P: well, I haven’t thought about the action part. But I can sign petitions, join protests marches and make some noises and other related actions on the street and make life as difficult as possible for men.
Q: don’t you realize when you disrupt the law and order of the land you will adversely affect not just men but also other women, children and people old and young? Do you know the implication to the whole economy?
P: well, to achieve my goal I don’t care about the means and side effects.
Q: ok. what do you think will be the adversed consequences to yourself?
P: o, I haven’t thought of that yet. I suppose in a modern civil developed law abiding society I will be at worst arrested/imprisoned or at best sacked by my employer or avoided by my neighbors. My family too may be adversely affected and lose their peace, good relations with others and perhaps employment opportunities too. All occupations and employments require good relations between all involved in the economic chain, for example, suppliers and consumers, workers and management vertically and horizontally. Most people are not fools. They can foresee trouble and stay a mile away.
Q: what if there will be no free lunches anymore for every inhabitant on earth and your disruptive action causes a loss of employment for you and the breadwinner of your household? Are you prepared to starve yourself and your family for your philosophical cause?
P: well, I have not thought that far. After all right now some people can live in a modern developed civil lawful democratic (through electoral process) society without working. I mean without working on producing anything of value in the economic chain. But I do not want my family to do that.
Q: I commend you for honesty. Let’s examine your goal again. what is your ultimate goal?
P: I just want to be free from fear of being ostracized as a woman.
Q: Are you being ostracized in our modern developed society?
P: Not exactly.
Q: Are other women being ostracized because they are gender women? Please be specific.
P: Well, men don’t say it but in their mind we are inferior. But they need us for their use.
Q: So your issue is about worth. Are you inferior?
P: No, I certainly am not!
Q: Which mind counts most when it comes to assessing your worth? Yours or another person’s mind? Who has the final say about a person’s worth?
P: Well, I believe the final say has to be from God. I know I am precious in God’s eyes.
Q: Would you like to change place with a man who doesn’t think so?
P: Of course not.
Q: When God says women are precious and of great worth in His sight, who can ostracize you and say you are of less worth?
P: No one.
Q: Do you honestly think by going into the street etc. as aforementioned will help you become a gender of more worth?
P: No. I don’t believe so.
Q: Do you honestly think that men do not know the true worth of women?
P: No. I know many appreciate us being women. And I personally know of men who genuinely love and respect women as human of worth. Many Christian men believe in women’s equally precious worth in the sight of God. God-fearing family men of integrity show love and respect to their wives, mothers, sisters, daughters and granddaughters.
Q: Then do you still want to starve yourself and family and possibly harm other families’ wellbeing in the nation in which you are a citizen/resident without the issue of getting recognition of your worth as a woman?
P: No, I do not think the issue is relevant now.
Q: What can you do to help other women to know their true worth?
P: I can start by teaching my own little daughter she is of an intrinsic worth that her Creator-God has given and no one (no woman or man or any system) can take away from her.
Q: I agree to that. Where can you find the proof?
P: I can find them in the Bible verses and the life of Jesus who shows us what God thinks of us. I can also share with her all the goodness I have encountered in my life. I will make this my 2018 and beyond goal!
Q: I believe God’s favor is on you. Thank you sister for this interview.
P. Amen. Thank you sister.

Notes about Jesus and His followers:
Jesus treated women kindly and with mercy and grace. He had many women followers from different walks of life. They supported Him and His disciples financially, followed Him faithfully during His ministry even to the cross, and many became His disciples. In the book of Acts we continue to read of women disciples who became influential church planters/leaders. Please read the Gospels and the Scriptures. The following are some of the passages. There are many more New Testament examples in the apostles’ letters to the churches. For those interested in women’s roles and God’s recognition of their worth in the Old Testament, please read my earlier blogs of such records in the Bible. Be pleasantly surprised!
Matthew 27:55-56, Mark 15:40-41, Mark 16:1, John 19:25, Luke 23:55-56, 24:9-10, Luke 8:1-3, Acts 13:30-31, Matthew 12:46-50, Luke 10:42, John 20:16, Acts 1:13-14.

Some interesting and important statistics for men to ponder on:

Women are scarce. In 2015 there were 66 million men without women on this planet. As of the World Population Clock counting at this moment in 2018, 49.6% of the world population are female.

“Left to nature alone, the population on earth would be give or take 50% men and 50% women, according to what’s become known as Fisher’s Principle. The fact that women generally live longer is compensated by the fact of more boys being born than girls (107 boys per 100 girls in 2013).”

“In 2015, men outnumbered women on the planet by more than 66 million, according to the World Bank. What makes this possible, even though a majority of countries have more women than men, is the fact that the most populous countries in the world are also highly imbalanced: India has 48 million more men than women, China nearly 42 million, accounting for 75% of the male surplus worldwide.”

“Highly developed countries tend to have more women in their population. Thirteen of the top 15 countries in the Human Development Index (which measures health, education and prosperity) and 29 of 31 “high-income OECD states” (as defined by the World Bank) have a female population above 50%.”

(Statistics quoted from internet source: https://qz.com/335183/heres-why-men-on-earth-outnumber-women-by-60-million/)

Here is a very important set of statistics about gender differences that can impact the change of who will be elected for power in USA:
GENDER DIFFERENCES IN VOTER TURNOUT
In recent elections, voter turnout rates for women have equaled or exceeded voter turnout rates for men.
Women, who constitute more than half the population, have cast between four and seven million more votes than men in recent elections.
VOTER TURNOUT IN PRESIDENTIAL ELECTIONS
In every presidential election since 1980, the proportion of eligible female adults who voted has exceeded the proportion of eligible male adults who voted. …The number of female voters has exceeded the number of male voters in every presidential election since 1964 (see Figure 2)…
(Please read the whole article at: http://www.cawp.rutgers.edu/sites/default/files/resources/genderdiff.pdf)

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a friend not weathered

a friend not Weathered.


We have a friend who is a friend to many travelers. She is about six (42 years old in human term). She lives alone guarding her absentee master’s house. Sometimes some visitors stay longer and become her friends. A few become her family. When we hear her making strange sounds at the gate we know one of her family members has come to visit and is parking a car nearby. often she comes to the side door and speaks politely and invites one person to go play in the park outside. When we are too engrossed in our own conversation she gets a bit concerned and would knock loudly to drown out our noises. we have some relatives who come but spend their whole time outside playing with this very hospital and friendly family member who has been waiting for this moment for days or perhaps weeks. One of my nieces does that. she will let her mom get inside to talk to others and she herself stays outside to play with the lonely dog who is elated at such focused attention.

a bit of kind attention makes her very happy. i must of course warn that she is untrained. she does not obey any command. some of us use the word, “sit” and some use the word “inside” (meaning to sit inside a cage). the trouble is that in a park during the current weather there is hardly any dry patch to sit on. during the last makeover of the house her old cage was given away too. so both commands no longer apply these days.

those in the grand (age group) category adopt the strategy of let it be. just let this little friend run wild. but you need to carry a leash (without tying her) to pretend that you are in control in case anyone complains. why can’t you tie her to your leash as the law requires? because you just cannot out run her. you also need to prepare a bowl of food to lure her inside your gate once you get too tired to continue your park presence.

for those who ask, yes, she is just a mongrel puppy abandoned by someone at the door step of a church. no, she is well looked after and is running strong. she is not weathered. in many ways she is a faithful friend because she does not forget anyone who has lived here even after a prolonged absence for many months. how do we know? she just makes a specific endearing sound to address you when you return. in fact she announces to the neighborhood as you park your car outside. so those inside the house always know who is coming.