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The woman movement and God, a testimony: does God care about you?

Isaiah 49:15This is relevant today. Some women are still angry with God and with their issues that seem not resolved because of many man-made blockages. Please read on…

1 Corinthians 11:11 Nevertheless, neither is man independent of woman, nor woman independent of man, in the Lord. 12 For as woman came from man, even so man also comes through woman; but all things are from God.

a fifty percent perspective

romans-122Some women are very angry. They decide to take matters into their own hands and walk down the street to make their voices heard. I know how it hurts or infuriates oneself when one feels that others are not listening, or worse, perhaps mocking or scoffing in their hearts. It hurts to be considered and treated as a second best or third best or not even a human who matters (in some societies). Gender, age, color, race, looks, nationality. All these matter to the physical world. Discrimination means her physical rights and entitlement are taken away from her because of her age, gender, looks, race, color or nationality (even if she has the right color, race, or looks). Indeed, in the fallen world, all men are not born equal. This is not a new issue. Some women may not know this, gender men are not born equal too. Have things improved since…

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woman issue (part three): what can one woman do?

a-godly-business-woman-lydiaI realize the subject is too big to handle in a tiny personal blog. When I read up more about women in nations where they are still being overtly ill-treated I admit I cannot use this blog to address big issues. I ponder over the matter and ask why I write this blog about women. Shall I quote more statistics of the inequality based on online sources? Shall I do a research over a period of two years just to be more in depth? Who are my readers and what do I hope to say to them and why? I then realize I cannot do a study and write a thesis. My targets are not thesis readers. This is only a personal blog and I can only focus on what I know and believe as important to write about. Here are some of my own Q and A:

Q: why do you write this blog?
A: I am led in my spirit to write on this topic right now. I can feel an urgency because some women somewhere are going to make major decisions this year and they are looking for options to consider.

Q: do you honestly think you can influence lots of women this way?
A: honestly I do not presume anything about influencing people.

Q: then why do you write?
A: I ask the same question. The prompt I receive is I can write to individuals and not groups or masses. If only one woman ventures to this blog and reads the articles about women issues, I would consider it very worthwhile. Because she may have found the exact answer she is looking for.

Q: but you only presented your perspective and not inclusive of others.
A: yes. I know. I ask myself the same question too. I can choose to quote many different reports and write a thesis of course. But as I said earlier this is a personal blog and not a scientific journal. My approach is therefore very different.

Q: where do you find your materials to write?
A: I believe in knowing something intuitively (in Christian terms, hearing the Holy Spirit). I would know when I should write and on what topic. I receive a prompting inside.

Q: since the women issue scope is so huge how do you know what to focus on?
A: I have so far written two posts. The first one focused on assuring a woman of her spiritual worth in the eyes of God, and the second one touched on how a woman could shift her paradigm -a management tool I have used successfully. I have not thought out the third one yet. But I am still thinking along expanding the twin lines of building spiritual strength and how to become more effective in employment-related matters.

Q: do you realize you have limited your target to women who can read English and have access to this blog?
A: yes, I know. As I said earlier, this is just a personal blog and I am a blogger here. However, I still believe that there are some women who are making big decisions this year and want to know more options. So I pray this blog will present you with the options that you have never thought of but have been praying for.

Bible passages to ponder on:
Joshua 17:3 (NKJV)
But Zelophehad…the son of Manasseh, had no sons, but only daughters. And these are the names of his daughters: Mahlah, Noah, Hoglah, Milcah, and Tirzah. 4 And they came near before Eleazar the priest, before Joshua the son of Nun, and before the rulers, saying, “The Lord commanded Moses to give us an inheritance among our brothers.” Therefore, according to the commandment of the Lord, he gave them an inheritance among their father’s brothers.

Acts 2:17
‘And it shall come to pass in the last days, says God, That I will pour out of My Spirit on all flesh; Your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, Your young men shall see visions, Your old men shall dream dreams.

Acts 16:13-15 (NKJV)
13 And on the Sabbath day we went out of the city to the riverside, where prayer was customarily made; and we sat down and spoke to the women who met there. 14 Now a certain woman named Lydia heard us. She was a seller of purple from the city of Thyatira, who worshiped God. The Lord opened her heart to heed the things spoken by Paul. 15 And when she and her household were baptized, she begged us, saying, “If you have judged me to be faithful to the Lord, come to my house and stay.” So she persuaded us.
https://kingdomofgodaughter.wordpress.com/2014/10/15/a-godly-wise-rich-businesswoman-lydia/

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current woman gender issue and resolute for 2018 and beyond (part two): economic issue and key to success

Proverbs 31:2526What is a woman’s true worth? In my previous post I presented her spiritual worth. This morning I started writing this post to address women economic issues. But I was halted by a name while browsing through “The Economist“, “History proves that the capitalist system works. The countries endowed with free minds and private property rights have been the fastest-growing and the most prosperous.” “Free enterprise helped far more than feminism—household appliances ended drudgery. Above all: marriage was the best deal ever devised for women.” (Phyllis Schlafly)

Phyllis is a different breed of woman issue champion and speaks differently from others on the subject. She has a no-nonsense style and gets to the gist of the issue. Instead of making women to bear more economic responsibilities and financial burdens, she speaks plainly (my interpretation) to the men. “Man, we American women hold you responsible to upkeep us and the children. Man, be responsible! No, man, don’t ever think of passing the buck to us women!” Here are some of her classic sensible words of wisdom taken from various internet sources: My personal comments are in brackets.

The best way to improve economic prospects for women is to improve job prospects for the men in their lives, even if that means increasing the so-called pay gap. (Go for it, guys! it’s you job to aim higher -higher pay jobs!)

Women have babies and men provide the support. If you don’t like the way we’re made you’ve got to take it up with God. (Clear cut responsibility. Fair play, guys. Stop your nonsensical excuses. Just pay up.)

American women are so fortunate. When I got married, all I wanted in the world was a dryer so I didn’t have to hang up my diapers. And now women have paper diapers and all sorts of conveniences in the home. And it is the man and the technology that has made the home such a pleasant place for women to be. (“American women are so fortunate. ‘Sigh…” from women from other parts of the world…)

Since the women are the ones who bear the babies and there’s nothing we can do about that, our laws and customs then make it the financial obligation of the husband to provide the support. It is his obligation and his sole obligation. And this is exactly and precisely what we will lose if the Equal Rights Amendment is passed. (It’s a man’s obligatory responsibility issue, man! Woman, never give up your upper hand! It is his problem and not yours!)

Feminists have convinced themselves that any difference between men and women is oppression and that women in the United States are an oppressed minority. This is such a lie. American women are the most fortunate class of people who ever lived on the face of the earth. We can do anything we want to do. (Sigh…many third world women would wish they were Americans!)

Men should stop treating feminists like ladies, and instead treat them like the men they say they want to be. (Honestly, I believe a man certainly knows the difference between a man and a woman.)

The feminist movement taught women to see themselves as victims of an oppressive patriarchy. … Self-imposed victimhood is not a recipe for happiness. (I agree to not proclaiming negative words on ourselves!)

In colleges, there are no gender separations in courses of study, and students can freely choose their majors. There are no male and female math classes. But women generally choose college courses that pay less in the labor market. Those are the choices that women themselves make. Those choices contribute to the pay gap… (I agree with this as you can read my sharing on key to success below!)

I don’t believe that everybody should be paid the same. I believe in equal pay for equal work. (Well said, ma’am!)

My college degree is from a great university in 1944. I got my master’s at Harvard graduate school, completely co-ed, in 1945. My mother got her college degree in 1920. What’s the problem? Those opportunities were always there for women. (Thumbs up to these pioneers!)

What I am defending is the real rights of women. A woman should have the right to be in the home as a wife and mother. (I cannot comment because I am neither. But I do enjoy the regular lengthy visits from younger relatives ranging from infants to young adults. I consider them as God’s grace.)

If the woman picks the wrong man, that’s not society’s problem. That’s her problem. (This again relates to the success key of “careful choosing” and preparation as I share below about economic success.)

There are many choices out there for young women. And you have to ask yourself whether you want to model your life on the women who let life pass them by and who spend their lives thinking they were victims and that men are the enemy. Or do you want to have a happy life with a successful marriage and 14 lovely grandchildren. The choices are out there. (AGREED! Again a matter of making good and right choices of models.)

The United States is a giant island of freedom, achievement, wealth and prosperity in a world hostile to our values. (Claps!)

In a world of inhumanity, war and terrorism, American citizenship is a very precious possession. (SIGH from men and women from other nations, “Don’t we already know? Why else do you think we want to become your citizens/residents?)

The European nations’ loss of sovereignty to the EU should be a warning to Americans. It is a mystery why any Americans would support the concept of the EU. (Ma’am, certainly a mystery to many of us from the rest of the world too.)

Location is the key to most businesses, and the entrepreneurs typically build their reputation at a particular spot. (I included this quote because it is relevant to women as a start-up entrepreneur. It is the simplest and least costly way to test out your business plan and products. The best network is relationship based from locals already know you well, trust you and even support your business efforts. This is a wise beginner’s move before you try virtual network selling on internet.)

This blogger’s notes:
Last night I did a search and came upon the unique case of Rwanda women. Rwanda has the highest number (63.8%) of women parliamentarians. One reason was that after the genocide the president decided to make up for the shortage of men by giving women legal entrances to the previously closed doors of offices. Yet, the significant representation of women did not change the society and family. Here is an excerpt of an article:

“she returned to Rwanda to interview female politicians about their lives — not just their public positions but their private lives, with their husbands and children. She found with rare exception that no matter how powerful these women were in public, that power didn’t extend into their own homes.
“One told me how her husband expected her to make sure that his shoes were polished, the water was put in the bathroom for him, his clothes were ironed,” Justine says. And this husband wanted not only his shoes laid out in the morning, but his socks placed on top of the shoes. And he wanted it done by his wife, the parliamentarian.”  The women’s explanation was that they were Rwandans.
(https://www.npr.org/sections/goatsandsoda/2016/07/29/487360094/invisibilia-no-one-thought-this-all-womans-debate-team-could-crush-it)

The article about an African nation is not new as a few years back I have seen the same public-private discrepancy  in an Asian country which went through a genocide. Many women became sole bread earners and raised up their children. The matriarch had decision making authority and financial responsibility in the family. But in the community they remained silent, demure, graceful and uninvolved in the men’s social-political world.

Africa and Asia may be different from America. Phyllis McAlpin Schlafly née Stewart (August 15, 1924 – September 5, 2016) was an American constitutional lawyer and conservative political activist. She was known for staunchly conservative social and political views. She was well educated, informed and highly qualified and yet she remained contentedly married and enjoyed her role as a wife, mother, and grandmother. She has made a pertinent point: When it is a win-win situation between genders, why not continue the win-win?

In developing world, when a family man is unwilling or is unable to pay his dues and be faithful husband and responsible father, the woman steps into the role of the bread winner in lieu of the husband. This is a global generic issue throughout the history of mankind. In these cases the women show their willingness and capability to do so.

Some richer nations use public funds to subsidize the qualified poor and unemployed. However, Many developing countries cannot afford such luxury.  As men flock to work in the growing cities for better pays their families are left behind. Often the men’s wages can barely support their costly city lives and their wives and children have to survive on their own means. Some non-profit organizations give women and children hygiene/basic healthcare, education, vocational skill and trade training. Many women become sole bread-winners.

But what about the issue of unequal pay for certain groups of women, the economically poor, and colored (non-white) women in a predominantly male governing society?  I have no answer. I would suggest you read my following testimony carefully and perhaps find your own key.

A generic advice to both genders: Have I been given less pay or less promotion opportunities despite equal merits due to whatever prejudices or discriminations? My honest answer is “NO”.

  1. The reason was I chose my field of study and employers carefully. The key is: “Choose wisely”. Choose with planning and hard work of preparation accompanied by a lifelong positive outlook, enduring optimism for success and persistent learning new knowledge (always at a few steps ahead of others in the pack, man or woman).
  2. *In my case I believe in having a close relationship with God trusting in His grace (undeserved favor). It works. Ask God for the right job, geographical location, people group, employer, bosses, pay and promotion timing. Above all, maintain who you really are, a woman/man of worth in God’s eyes. The Bible has given good promises for success for both women and men. Use them. Be willing to shift your paradigm and relocate when you are called. “Relocation” is my second key word to success.
  3. What have you been doing in the past if you are one of those who feel that you are a loser because of your____________(race, color, gender, class, and whatever)? Have your past strategies worked? What has or has not worked for you/others? What can you do to make things work? Can you find good successful role models who has proven by bountiful good fruits to emulate? These are just some random pragmatic questions I would ask you to ponder on. If you are already a Christian, then my best advice for you is to pray and ask God to open up good choices and relocations (including the necessary training and equipping) as testified above.*

One cautionary word to those women who do not already know: “Don’t think that in a man’s mind/heart a woman is like a man.” You can try. But you are just not. I have asked women, “do you want to change place with a man?” So far the answer is often a strange look meaning,”What, are you nuts?” or a laugh and a definite “NO! No Way!” So I have concluded that women are really smart. We know our secret God-given gifts and advantages which men do not have. On the other hand, man, you too have your God-given gifts and advantages that women do not have. You just have to find out what your special gifts are.

Read King Solomon’s description of his capable mom: Proverbs 31:10-31, a capable and loyal wife, wise and good mother, successful and wealthy business woman who is fair to her workers and kind to the poor. Above all, her King son summed her up as “a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised.” 21 Bible verses were dedicated to record this wonder woman. What an honor!

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a word of comfort to a woman of faith

Luke 8:48
And he said unto her, Daughter, be of good comfort: thy faith hath made thee whole; go in peace.
And He said to her, Daughter, your faith (your confidence and trust in Me) has made you well! Go (enter) into peace (untroubled, undisturbed well-being).
Jesus said, “Daughter, you took a risk trusting me, and now you’re healed and whole. Live well, live blessed!”
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The woman movement and God, a testimony: my self-esteem which the world cannot touch

romans-122Some women are very angry. They decide to take matters into their own hands and walk down the street to make their voices heard. I know how it hurts or infuriates oneself when one feels that others are not listening, or worse, perhaps mocking or scoffing in their hearts. It hurts to be considered and treated as a second best or third best or not even a human who matters (in some societies). Gender, age, color, race, looks, nationality. All these matter to the physical world. Discrimination means her physical rights and entitlement are taken away from her because of her age, gender, looks, race, color or nationality (even if she has the right color, race, or looks). Indeed, in the fallen world, all men are not born equal. This is not a new issue. Some women may not know this, gender men are not born equal too. Have things improved since the beginning of mankind?  Which is preferred: honesty or hypocrisy? You want an honest opinion and attitude from the heart or you just make do with the superficial legal mandatory physical (material) recognition from fellow citizens in the society? For practical living, mental, emotional and spiritual wellbeing, both are essential.

Do women need to fight for their rights? Can our words and actions change others’ ways of thinking and the generic hearts of mankind? This is the current topic of debate since woman suffrage movement which actually began in 1848, when the first women’s rights convention was held in Seneca Falls, New York, USA. The outstanding (unfinished) issue (in USA) is 169 years old. In this blog dedicated to women I have previously put together many Biblical examples of women in the Bible and how God (the Holy Spirit) viewed them and spoke positively of them and their lives. There are many evidences to show that God has never discriminated against women. The discriminations that some women have encountered past and present in some societies or people groups individually and/or as a group are not from God. Just as the many disasters and bad happenings in this fallen world are not from God but from irresponsible and selfish mankind, bad things that have happened or are still happening to women are from selfish man (mankind) and not God.

We know from history that human laws can be enacted in civil societies. But people’s hearts and attitudes  do not simply change. Mind-set only changes through life transforming encounters in one’s own life. Physical changes are possible but not the heart matters. I learned superficially since young the differences between man and woman, for example, what to do or not to do, where to go or not to go, mainly based on physical abilities and social acceptability and responsibility. I also noted that in cases when the man of the family was unable to carry out his assigned responsibility as the head/bread-earner of the family, the woman stepped in effectively and assumed the responsibility without much debate. It was natural and automatic. She would go out and get a job and supported her children (and husband) when needed. Many women changed their dominant role as housewife to that of a business entrepreneur or corporate executive. Some excelled and became highly respected authoritative professionals in specialized fields traditionally dominated by men, just as some men excelled in fields traditionally dominated by women. Changes through interchanges of physical tasks are not difficult.

The increasing progresses in opening of the education and employment venues to women have contributed to further economic and social advances and material wellbeing of women. On the other hand, there are many records of materially successful self-made women, without the aforementioned institutionalized advantages or privileges. How can this be? This is not new. The Bible recorded many successful godly women in different influential fields: political, military, economic, social and even religious (by being prophets)!

On the other hand, we all know that mankind’s nature has not changed since the existence of history. We can only carry what we are able to carry in true integrity, at the level which each of us is assigned according to the ability each has. Some human has more endowments in certain areas and resources. Some have less. Some resources are gender-related but not all are.

Coming back to how to make people change their mind (attitude and intrinsic value system) about looking down on women or a human because of his or color or race or nationality, I have no answer. I would say that though gender (and many other discriminative) issues seemed important to me once, I do not now consider it a matter that warrants dispute. For example, if you think that being a white woman and treated as a second class citizen in your white country is unfair, try being born as a person without a definite clear gender or being born of a color and race of a country which the world’s popular mass media (which have and still are shaping world view of the world’s population) have traditionally looked down upon. Try being one of those stereotyped caricatured oriental characters in your movies. Indeed, the white culture has been popularized and upheld by many in the global entertainment and game industries which no longer have any boundaries.

My answer to the unfairness of this world is to have an esteem which the world cannot touch. I know my God is real. I have encountered Him. I submit to His words. I also know from my experience that man’s words cannot really change people. The real transformation can only take place just as the very learned and intelligent man, the Apostle Paul, said, “by the renewal of our mind.” The transformation of our mind is the key to knowing God. God has said that we can be joined to Him and one spirit with Him! (1 Corinthians 6:17) In our spirit we can access the real answers to our many questions the world cannot answer. I cannot explain to you how my own mind had been changed. I can only witness to you that you will agree and say Amen when yours too are changed by the renewal of God’s words (with His Spirit). I also urge you to seek to know God now so you know His purpose for you on earth. Life is set in time. Believe me, time does not wait for a person no matter how busy or important you may consider the other matters you are pursuing are.

James 1:20, says that the wrath of man does not accomplish the righteousness of God. Regardless of how appropriate our anger may seem, and regardless of how we think our wrath could make a person or situation change, we will never achieve God’s best that way.

Paul actually said this two thousand years ago, Romans 12:1-2 Amplified Bible (AMP)

12 [a]Therefore I urge you, [b]brothers and sisters, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies [dedicating all of yourselves, set apart] as a living sacrifice, holy and well-pleasing to God, which is your rational (logical, intelligent) act of worship. 2 And do not be conformed to this world [any longer with its superficial values and customs], but be [c]transformed and progressively changed [as you mature spiritually] by the renewing of your mind [focusing on godly values and ethical attitudes], so that you may prove [for yourselves] what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect [in His plan and purpose for you].

Footnotes:
Romans 12:1 Paul now begins outlining for the believer the practical application of the theological truths taught in chs 1-11.
Romans 12:1 Lit brethren.
Romans 12:2 From the Greek word meaning “metamorphosis.” Refers to the process that leads to an outward, permanent change.