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The woman movement and God, a testimony: does God care about you?

Isaiah 49:15This is relevant today. Some women are still angry with God and with their issues that seem not resolved because of many man-made blockages. Please read on…

1 Corinthians 11:11 Nevertheless, neither is man independent of woman, nor woman independent of man, in the Lord. 12 For as woman came from man, even so man also comes through woman; but all things are from God.

a fifty percent perspective

romans-122Some women are very angry. They decide to take matters into their own hands and walk down the street to make their voices heard. I know how it hurts or infuriates oneself when one feels that others are not listening, or worse, perhaps mocking or scoffing in their hearts. It hurts to be considered and treated as a second best or third best or not even a human who matters (in some societies). Gender, age, color, race, looks, nationality. All these matter to the physical world. Discrimination means her physical rights and entitlement are taken away from her because of her age, gender, looks, race, color or nationality (even if she has the right color, race, or looks). Indeed, in the fallen world, all men are not born equal. This is not a new issue. Some women may not know this, gender men are not born equal too. Have things improved since…

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woman issue (part three): what can one woman do?

a-godly-business-woman-lydiaI realize the subject is too big to handle in a tiny personal blog. When I read up more about women in nations where they are still being overtly ill-treated I admit I cannot use this blog to address big issues. I ponder over the matter and ask why I write this blog about women. Shall I quote more statistics of the inequality based on online sources? Shall I do a research over a period of two years just to be more in depth? Who are my readers and what do I hope to say to them and why? I then realize I cannot do a study and write a thesis. My targets are not thesis readers. This is only a personal blog and I can only focus on what I know and believe as important to write about. Here are some of my own Q and A:

Q: why do you write this blog?
A: I am led in my spirit to write on this topic right now. I can feel an urgency because some women somewhere are going to make major decisions this year and they are looking for options to consider.

Q: do you honestly think you can influence lots of women this way?
A: honestly I do not presume anything about influencing people.

Q: then why do you write?
A: I ask the same question. The prompt I receive is I can write to individuals and not groups or masses. If only one woman ventures to this blog and reads the articles about women issues, I would consider it very worthwhile. Because she may have found the exact answer she is looking for.

Q: but you only presented your perspective and not inclusive of others.
A: yes. I know. I ask myself the same question too. I can choose to quote many different reports and write a thesis of course. But as I said earlier this is a personal blog and not a scientific journal. My approach is therefore very different.

Q: where do you find your materials to write?
A: I believe in knowing something intuitively (in Christian terms, hearing the Holy Spirit). I would know when I should write and on what topic. I receive a prompting inside.

Q: since the women issue scope is so huge how do you know what to focus on?
A: I have so far written two posts. The first one focused on assuring a woman of her spiritual worth in the eyes of God, and the second one touched on how a woman could shift her paradigm -a management tool I have used successfully. I have not thought out the third one yet. But I am still thinking along expanding the twin lines of building spiritual strength and how to become more effective in employment-related matters.

Q: do you realize you have limited your target to women who can read English and have access to this blog?
A: yes, I know. As I said earlier, this is just a personal blog and I am a blogger here. However, I still believe that there are some women who are making big decisions this year and want to know more options. So I pray this blog will present you with the options that you have never thought of but have been praying for.

Bible passages to ponder on:
Joshua 17:3 (NKJV)
But Zelophehad…the son of Manasseh, had no sons, but only daughters. And these are the names of his daughters: Mahlah, Noah, Hoglah, Milcah, and Tirzah. 4 And they came near before Eleazar the priest, before Joshua the son of Nun, and before the rulers, saying, “The Lord commanded Moses to give us an inheritance among our brothers.” Therefore, according to the commandment of the Lord, he gave them an inheritance among their father’s brothers.

Acts 2:17
‘And it shall come to pass in the last days, says God, That I will pour out of My Spirit on all flesh; Your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, Your young men shall see visions, Your old men shall dream dreams.

Acts 16:13-15 (NKJV)
13 And on the Sabbath day we went out of the city to the riverside, where prayer was customarily made; and we sat down and spoke to the women who met there. 14 Now a certain woman named Lydia heard us. She was a seller of purple from the city of Thyatira, who worshiped God. The Lord opened her heart to heed the things spoken by Paul. 15 And when she and her household were baptized, she begged us, saying, “If you have judged me to be faithful to the Lord, come to my house and stay.” So she persuaded us.
https://kingdomofgodaughter.wordpress.com/2014/10/15/a-godly-wise-rich-businesswoman-lydia/

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current woman gender issue and resolute for 2018 and beyond (part two): economic issue and key to success

Proverbs 31:2526What is a woman’s true worth? In my previous post I presented her spiritual worth. This morning I started writing this post to address women economic issues. But I was halted by a name while browsing through “The Economist“, “History proves that the capitalist system works. The countries endowed with free minds and private property rights have been the fastest-growing and the most prosperous.” “Free enterprise helped far more than feminism—household appliances ended drudgery. Above all: marriage was the best deal ever devised for women.” (Phyllis Schlafly)

Phyllis is a different breed of woman issue champion and speaks differently from others on the subject. She has a no-nonsense style and gets to the gist of the issue. Instead of making women to bear more economic responsibilities and financial burdens, she speaks plainly (my interpretation) to the men. “Man, we American women hold you responsible to upkeep us and the children. Man, be responsible! No, man, don’t ever think of passing the buck to us women!” Here are some of her classic sensible words of wisdom taken from various internet sources: My personal comments are in brackets.

The best way to improve economic prospects for women is to improve job prospects for the men in their lives, even if that means increasing the so-called pay gap. (Go for it, guys! it’s you job to aim higher -higher pay jobs!)

Women have babies and men provide the support. If you don’t like the way we’re made you’ve got to take it up with God. (Clear cut responsibility. Fair play, guys. Stop your nonsensical excuses. Just pay up.)

American women are so fortunate. When I got married, all I wanted in the world was a dryer so I didn’t have to hang up my diapers. And now women have paper diapers and all sorts of conveniences in the home. And it is the man and the technology that has made the home such a pleasant place for women to be. (“American women are so fortunate. ‘Sigh…” from women from other parts of the world…)

Since the women are the ones who bear the babies and there’s nothing we can do about that, our laws and customs then make it the financial obligation of the husband to provide the support. It is his obligation and his sole obligation. And this is exactly and precisely what we will lose if the Equal Rights Amendment is passed. (It’s a man’s obligatory responsibility issue, man! Woman, never give up your upper hand! It is his problem and not yours!)

Feminists have convinced themselves that any difference between men and women is oppression and that women in the United States are an oppressed minority. This is such a lie. American women are the most fortunate class of people who ever lived on the face of the earth. We can do anything we want to do. (Sigh…many third world women would wish they were Americans!)

Men should stop treating feminists like ladies, and instead treat them like the men they say they want to be. (Honestly, I believe a man certainly knows the difference between a man and a woman.)

The feminist movement taught women to see themselves as victims of an oppressive patriarchy. … Self-imposed victimhood is not a recipe for happiness. (I agree to not proclaiming negative words on ourselves!)

In colleges, there are no gender separations in courses of study, and students can freely choose their majors. There are no male and female math classes. But women generally choose college courses that pay less in the labor market. Those are the choices that women themselves make. Those choices contribute to the pay gap… (I agree with this as you can read my sharing on key to success below!)

I don’t believe that everybody should be paid the same. I believe in equal pay for equal work. (Well said, ma’am!)

My college degree is from a great university in 1944. I got my master’s at Harvard graduate school, completely co-ed, in 1945. My mother got her college degree in 1920. What’s the problem? Those opportunities were always there for women. (Thumbs up to these pioneers!)

What I am defending is the real rights of women. A woman should have the right to be in the home as a wife and mother. (I cannot comment because I am neither. But I do enjoy the regular lengthy visits from younger relatives ranging from infants to young adults. I consider them as God’s grace.)

If the woman picks the wrong man, that’s not society’s problem. That’s her problem. (This again relates to the success key of “careful choosing” and preparation as I share below about economic success.)

There are many choices out there for young women. And you have to ask yourself whether you want to model your life on the women who let life pass them by and who spend their lives thinking they were victims and that men are the enemy. Or do you want to have a happy life with a successful marriage and 14 lovely grandchildren. The choices are out there. (AGREED! Again a matter of making good and right choices of models.)

The United States is a giant island of freedom, achievement, wealth and prosperity in a world hostile to our values. (Claps!)

In a world of inhumanity, war and terrorism, American citizenship is a very precious possession. (SIGH from men and women from other nations, “Don’t we already know? Why else do you think we want to become your citizens/residents?)

The European nations’ loss of sovereignty to the EU should be a warning to Americans. It is a mystery why any Americans would support the concept of the EU. (Ma’am, certainly a mystery to many of us from the rest of the world too.)

Location is the key to most businesses, and the entrepreneurs typically build their reputation at a particular spot. (I included this quote because it is relevant to women as a start-up entrepreneur. It is the simplest and least costly way to test out your business plan and products. The best network is relationship based from locals already know you well, trust you and even support your business efforts. This is a wise beginner’s move before you try virtual network selling on internet.)

This blogger’s notes:
Last night I did a search and came upon the unique case of Rwanda women. Rwanda has the highest number (63.8%) of women parliamentarians. One reason was that after the genocide the president decided to make up for the shortage of men by giving women legal entrances to the previously closed doors of offices. Yet, the significant representation of women did not change the society and family. Here is an excerpt of an article:

“she returned to Rwanda to interview female politicians about their lives — not just their public positions but their private lives, with their husbands and children. She found with rare exception that no matter how powerful these women were in public, that power didn’t extend into their own homes.
“One told me how her husband expected her to make sure that his shoes were polished, the water was put in the bathroom for him, his clothes were ironed,” Justine says. And this husband wanted not only his shoes laid out in the morning, but his socks placed on top of the shoes. And he wanted it done by his wife, the parliamentarian.”  The women’s explanation was that they were Rwandans.
(https://www.npr.org/sections/goatsandsoda/2016/07/29/487360094/invisibilia-no-one-thought-this-all-womans-debate-team-could-crush-it)

The article about an African nation is not new as a few years back I have seen the same public-private discrepancy  in an Asian country which went through a genocide. Many women became sole bread earners and raised up their children. The matriarch had decision making authority and financial responsibility in the family. But in the community they remained silent, demure, graceful and uninvolved in the men’s social-political world.

Africa and Asia may be different from America. Phyllis McAlpin Schlafly née Stewart (August 15, 1924 – September 5, 2016) was an American constitutional lawyer and conservative political activist. She was known for staunchly conservative social and political views. She was well educated, informed and highly qualified and yet she remained contentedly married and enjoyed her role as a wife, mother, and grandmother. She has made a pertinent point: When it is a win-win situation between genders, why not continue the win-win?

In developing world, when a family man is unwilling or is unable to pay his dues and be faithful husband and responsible father, the woman steps into the role of the bread winner in lieu of the husband. This is a global generic issue throughout the history of mankind. In these cases the women show their willingness and capability to do so.

Some richer nations use public funds to subsidize the qualified poor and unemployed. However, Many developing countries cannot afford such luxury.  As men flock to work in the growing cities for better pays their families are left behind. Often the men’s wages can barely support their costly city lives and their wives and children have to survive on their own means. Some non-profit organizations give women and children hygiene/basic healthcare, education, vocational skill and trade training. Many women become sole bread-winners.

But what about the issue of unequal pay for certain groups of women, the economically poor, and colored (non-white) women in a predominantly male governing society?  I have no answer. I would suggest you read my following testimony carefully and perhaps find your own key.

A generic advice to both genders: Have I been given less pay or less promotion opportunities despite equal merits due to whatever prejudices or discriminations? My honest answer is “NO”.

  1. The reason was I chose my field of study and employers carefully. The key is: “Choose wisely”. Choose with planning and hard work of preparation accompanied by a lifelong positive outlook, enduring optimism for success and persistent learning new knowledge (always at a few steps ahead of others in the pack, man or woman).
  2. *In my case I believe in having a close relationship with God trusting in His grace (undeserved favor). It works. Ask God for the right job, geographical location, people group, employer, bosses, pay and promotion timing. Above all, maintain who you really are, a woman/man of worth in God’s eyes. The Bible has given good promises for success for both women and men. Use them. Be willing to shift your paradigm and relocate when you are called. “Relocation” is my second key word to success.
  3. What have you been doing in the past if you are one of those who feel that you are a loser because of your____________(race, color, gender, class, and whatever)? Have your past strategies worked? What has or has not worked for you/others? What can you do to make things work? Can you find good successful role models who has proven by bountiful good fruits to emulate? These are just some random pragmatic questions I would ask you to ponder on. If you are already a Christian, then my best advice for you is to pray and ask God to open up good choices and relocations (including the necessary training and equipping) as testified above.*

One cautionary word to those women who do not already know: “Don’t think that in a man’s mind/heart a woman is like a man.” You can try. But you are just not. I have asked women, “do you want to change place with a man?” So far the answer is often a strange look meaning,”What, are you nuts?” or a laugh and a definite “NO! No Way!” So I have concluded that women are really smart. We know our secret God-given gifts and advantages which men do not have. On the other hand, man, you too have your God-given gifts and advantages that women do not have. You just have to find out what your special gifts are.

Read King Solomon’s description of his capable mom: Proverbs 31:10-31, a capable and loyal wife, wise and good mother, successful and wealthy business woman who is fair to her workers and kind to the poor. Above all, her King son summed her up as “a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised.” 21 Bible verses were dedicated to record this wonder woman. What an honor!

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The woman movement and God, a testimony: my self-esteem which the world cannot touch

romans-122Some women are very angry. They decide to take matters into their own hands and walk down the street to make their voices heard. I know how it hurts or infuriates oneself when one feels that others are not listening, or worse, perhaps mocking or scoffing in their hearts. It hurts to be considered and treated as a second best or third best or not even a human who matters (in some societies). Gender, age, color, race, looks, nationality. All these matter to the physical world. Discrimination means her physical rights and entitlement are taken away from her because of her age, gender, looks, race, color or nationality (even if she has the right color, race, or looks). Indeed, in the fallen world, all men are not born equal. This is not a new issue. Some women may not know this, gender men are not born equal too. Have things improved since the beginning of mankind?  Which is preferred: honesty or hypocrisy? You want an honest opinion and attitude from the heart or you just make do with the superficial legal mandatory physical (material) recognition from fellow citizens in the society? For practical living, mental, emotional and spiritual wellbeing, both are essential.

Do women need to fight for their rights? Can our words and actions change others’ ways of thinking and the generic hearts of mankind? This is the current topic of debate since woman suffrage movement which actually began in 1848, when the first women’s rights convention was held in Seneca Falls, New York, USA. The outstanding (unfinished) issue (in USA) is 169 years old. In this blog dedicated to women I have previously put together many Biblical examples of women in the Bible and how God (the Holy Spirit) viewed them and spoke positively of them and their lives. There are many evidences to show that God has never discriminated against women. The discriminations that some women have encountered past and present in some societies or people groups individually and/or as a group are not from God. Just as the many disasters and bad happenings in this fallen world are not from God but from irresponsible and selfish mankind, bad things that have happened or are still happening to women are from selfish man (mankind) and not God.

We know from history that human laws can be enacted in civil societies. But people’s hearts and attitudes  do not simply change. Mind-set only changes through life transforming encounters in one’s own life. Physical changes are possible but not the heart matters. I learned superficially since young the differences between man and woman, for example, what to do or not to do, where to go or not to go, mainly based on physical abilities and social acceptability and responsibility. I also noted that in cases when the man of the family was unable to carry out his assigned responsibility as the head/bread-earner of the family, the woman stepped in effectively and assumed the responsibility without much debate. It was natural and automatic. She would go out and get a job and supported her children (and husband) when needed. Many women changed their dominant role as housewife to that of a business entrepreneur or corporate executive. Some excelled and became highly respected authoritative professionals in specialized fields traditionally dominated by men, just as some men excelled in fields traditionally dominated by women. Changes through interchanges of physical tasks are not difficult.

The increasing progresses in opening of the education and employment venues to women have contributed to further economic and social advances and material wellbeing of women. On the other hand, there are many records of materially successful self-made women, without the aforementioned institutionalized advantages or privileges. How can this be? This is not new. The Bible recorded many successful godly women in different influential fields: political, military, economic, social and even religious (by being prophets)!

On the other hand, we all know that mankind’s nature has not changed since the existence of history. We can only carry what we are able to carry in true integrity, at the level which each of us is assigned according to the ability each has. Some human has more endowments in certain areas and resources. Some have less. Some resources are gender-related but not all are.

Coming back to how to make people change their mind (attitude and intrinsic value system) about looking down on women or a human because of his or color or race or nationality, I have no answer. I would say that though gender (and many other discriminative) issues seemed important to me once, I do not now consider it a matter that warrants dispute. For example, if you think that being a white woman and treated as a second class citizen in your white country is unfair, try being born as a person without a definite clear gender or being born of a color and race of a country which the world’s popular mass media (which have and still are shaping world view of the world’s population) have traditionally looked down upon. Try being one of those stereotyped caricatured oriental characters in your movies. Indeed, the white culture has been popularized and upheld by many in the global entertainment and game industries which no longer have any boundaries.

My answer to the unfairness of this world is to have an esteem which the world cannot touch. I know my God is real. I have encountered Him. I submit to His words. I also know from my experience that man’s words cannot really change people. The real transformation can only take place just as the very learned and intelligent man, the Apostle Paul, said, “by the renewal of our mind.” The transformation of our mind is the key to knowing God. God has said that we can be joined to Him and one spirit with Him! (1 Corinthians 6:17) In our spirit we can access the real answers to our many questions the world cannot answer. I cannot explain to you how my own mind had been changed. I can only witness to you that you will agree and say Amen when yours too are changed by the renewal of God’s words (with His Spirit). I also urge you to seek to know God now so you know His purpose for you on earth. Life is set in time. Believe me, time does not wait for a person no matter how busy or important you may consider the other matters you are pursuing are.

James 1:20, says that the wrath of man does not accomplish the righteousness of God. Regardless of how appropriate our anger may seem, and regardless of how we think our wrath could make a person or situation change, we will never achieve God’s best that way.

Paul actually said this two thousand years ago, Romans 12:1-2 Amplified Bible (AMP)

12 [a]Therefore I urge you, [b]brothers and sisters, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies [dedicating all of yourselves, set apart] as a living sacrifice, holy and well-pleasing to God, which is your rational (logical, intelligent) act of worship. 2 And do not be conformed to this world [any longer with its superficial values and customs], but be [c]transformed and progressively changed [as you mature spiritually] by the renewing of your mind [focusing on godly values and ethical attitudes], so that you may prove [for yourselves] what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect [in His plan and purpose for you].

Footnotes:
Romans 12:1 Paul now begins outlining for the believer the practical application of the theological truths taught in chs 1-11.
Romans 12:1 Lit brethren.
Romans 12:2 From the Greek word meaning “metamorphosis.” Refers to the process that leads to an outward, permanent change.

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women not want to be women? (6): WWIII scenario

WWIILet us imagine an imminent World War III looming in the near distant future. If we have a woman as the supreme national commander of a great military power in the world to war against another great military power in the world run by a male strongman, whom do you think will have the upper hand? I leave each reader to ponder seriously on this point, which will determine the life and death of every citizen regardless of gender, race, class, ideologies, religions or whatever we may think matter.  Whom do you think will have the caliber to stand up for you in a matter concerning life and death? 

Coming back to one Question I raised for women in my previous blog, “Do women still need men?” In that article I mentioned two traditional male roles: economic and military. The military role is still a key issue in the world, that is, men are needed to fight wars. The last two world wars had demonstrated that men contributed significantly in terms of the number of soldiers who died for their respective nations. Admittedly today’s war equipments/weapons are highly sophisticated and technologically advanced., and a few privileged women may be as effective as men in operating them. In years to come, some women may even use expensive robotics and artificial intelligence to make up for physical disadvantages. But no nation will be foolish enough not to use less costly and more readily available male resources unless there is no option. I have yet to read of any scientific study on comparative advantages of women over men in terms of commanding and operating a real technologically advanced world war. In hand to hand combat over difficult terrain, using brute strength, I would think that an average man has an edge over an average woman. A good example of such physical and even strategic differences is in the sports arena.

Note: In a few previous blogs I may have sounded like a woman chauvinist. In this blog I may have sounded like a man chauvinist. I am neither. I am not speaking on behalf of any gender interest group. I just voice some personal thoughts as an ordinary human.

In summary, I brought out two issues to think about: the choice of the right national leader, and the predominance of male in war. 

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not the weaker sex/gender

charityI feel compelled to say something about the cliché and stereo-typing some people or media use about gender differences. It is wrong and deceptive to keep using the “cliché” that woman belongs to a weaker sex/gender and should be treated likewise. In certain nation the society/community tries to use law to confine woman to the weaker and thus vulnerable social economic political category. I personally do not think that will help to protect woman and children or the aged. Based on my experience from study, travel and observation including interviews, I have found strength in woman that a society obsessed with past tradition and prejudices will not find. It is a real tragedy for one half of mankind to be overlooked this way.
Will woman be protected by a law that emphasizes her weak/vulnerable physical characteristics? An honest study of the nations of the world and you will discover that the answer s a definite NO.
On the other hand nations or societies that emphasize woman’s strength and ability to contribute actually benefit from this positive and realistic outlook and attitude. By now the world is fully aware that brawn and physical force do not rule the world. Brain and religious/spiritual belief do. Woman excels in the latter fields.
Our focus to make the world or our nation a better and safer place for our children and the elderly citizens should not be focused on merely making physical law to restrain as evil can only be restrained and removed when we raise a new generation of socially-responsible, pro-team-building, good-neighborly, non-violent, patient, kind, gentle, nurturing, self-less, and honest people with integrity who are willing and capable to work hard for themselves and for others. Woman by nature has these intrinsic values and can qualify and contribute to this positive nation-building effort tremendously.
Coercive control can only breed discord and hatred. On the subject of focusing on the supposedly risk of man dressed up as woman and infiltrates the toilets to do harm to woman, if you insist on using the Law, to be physically effective you need to post woman armed guards at every public toilet. You need to arm the air-hostesses to guard the airplane toilets. You need to arm all the girls in the co-ed schools. You need to give all the female population training on how to use a gun. You need to give lessons for the physically weaker boys too as they too may become victims. You need to train the older people too, the less advantaged people who are more vulnerable to mugging and violence too, the people of colors that are more subject to being victimized too…the list of the world is endless for the vulnerable.
Conditioning is a powerful weapon. Brain washing has been effectively used by many evil totalitarian regimes until the victims are exposed to another conditioning.
I have no answer to the sorry state of the world.
My personal conviction is to start by positive teaching and good-conditioning of our younger ones on the principles and values set by Jesus. Love does not demand its own way.

1 Corinthians 13 New King James Version (NKJV)
The Greatest Gift
13 Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal. 2 And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3 And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned,[a] but have not love, it profits me nothing.

4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

8 Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part. 10 But when that which is perfect has come, then that which is in part will be done away.

11 When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things. 12 For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I shall know just as I also am known.

13 And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love.

Footnotes:

1 Corinthians 13:3 NU-Text reads so I may boast.

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Why do some women not want to be woman (5): heart relationship issue

hers hersI am reminded that my series of mini posts on the subject is not complete if I leave out the relationship-heart issue.
I shall again state that I do not presume this is comprehensive. I shall also only speak on this subject in relation to the spiritual reality of human existence.
I read of women couples who have lived together and remained committed and faithful to each other for a large part of their adult lives. Some share a family bond which is stronger and more enduring than that of other couples. The faithfulness to each other, love, kindness and honor they treat each other, sustaining consistency and stability of their relationship is exemplary from a humanistic physical and soul view.
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This morning I was pondering over how to say what I need to say from a spiritual view point.
What shall I say to an old couple who have lived happily and peacefully together for over fifty years? They have worked in unison for half a century towards the same goals and contributed to the political social economic issues that matter to them. ~~~~~~
What have I to offer? I have nothing to say in the humanistic physical and soul realm.
In the spiritual realm I would still urge every woman to seek answer in the spirit.
Our spirit goes somewhere after this body is laid to rest.
I still say that the Bible is the most reliable spiritual book.
It is painful to read and you may reject and close your ears and eyes and hearts at first. If you persist and keep reading and listening to the words of God, the initial anger will not stop you to move forward and deeper into the spirit.
No human preaching and lecturing can truly transform. But the Holy Spirit indeed moves with God’s words and releases God’s power to change the way we think from within.
One day the words in their pure form will come crashing down and the meanings will rise in you like the morning stars.
Suddenly you know God is talking to you.
When you are being transformed by the renewing of your mind, you will go through a period of grief and mourning, just as though you have encountered a death: denial, anger, fear, hurt, bargain and sadness.
It is a period of high stress.
The only way to get over it is still through the words of God. The Holy Spirit is the Comforter. He will comfort you.
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If you have loved each other deeply and lived a full life together for a long time, for some almost a whole life time, there’s really no human reason to part.
But if you know the spiritual God and believe in His words and promises, by the power of the Holy Spirit and the faith that God has given you, you can bear the feeling of pain and the practical inconveniences and discomfort.

Should you continue to live together? I have no answer and I shall not be presumptuous. My only guide is a Bible verse that proclaims this, “There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit.” (Romans 8:1)

As what I have concluded in my previous post, the love of God compels and empowers. You can. Out of love for God and for your loved one.
Question: how long will this process take? The Lord will tell you. He will become your best friend.
Just take the first step of faith and He is already pleased.
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Why must it be so hard, so unfair? Some may ask.
I have no answer.
Jesus says that the way to life is through a narrow gate. Living by the Spirit is the narrow way. Living by faith in the unseen God is the narrow way. Believing in Jesus is the narrow way. Believing that the words of God is alive-spirit and life is the narrow way. (John 6:63)
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For my part, I would always question my human love. No human love can ever match the love of God.
One day I heard this from the Lord in my spirit: “What makes you think that I don’t love your loved one more than you do?”
True. No human can out do God where love is concerned.
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Love does not demand its own way. (1 Corinthians 13:5)
No greater love than this:
Jesus gave His life so that we may have life.

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Why do some women not want to be women: (4) sexual orientation

famous-love-quotes GermainGreerI understand it’s not complete if I leave out the issue that some women face: the sexual orientation issue.
The many philosophies and sciences of the world have already given discourses on this subject. I shall not repeat here.
As I have written before I shall look at this from a spiritual perspective.

I shall look at the word called ‘passion’. I shall look at the definition to begin this very sensitive subject :
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Passion is generally defined by dictionary as : strong and barely controllable emotion. Some of the definitions from Dictionary.com are as follows:
1. Any powerful or compelling emotion or feeling, as love or hate.
2. strong amorous feeling or desire; love; ardor.
3. strong sexual desire; lust.
4. an instance or experience of strong love or sexual desire.
5. a person toward whom one feels strong love or sexual desire.

There are many synonyms to the word, all descriptions of highly aroused state of a human being.
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The antonyms: calm, calmness.
Definition of clam: peaceful, quiet.
Synonyms(excerpts ): at a standstill, at peace, cool, harmonious, pastoral, restful, serene, soothing, still, stormless, tranquil, undisturbed, unruffled, waveless, windless
Antonyms: excited, fierce, frenzied, rough, stormy, turbulent, violent, wild.
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Having read to this point, I ask: what is the point?
My personal answer is:
Every woman must ask this question for we only have this brief period on earth. After earth there is eternity.
Like everything else on earth, passion will pass away.
Preparation for eternity has to be our priority.
Sexual desire or emotional wants are parts of human lives on earth. They are not parts of the spiritual eternity we are destined to enter into when this physical existence expires.
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I shall assume the position of a modern educated Bible believing woman here and speak.
Why do some women not want to be women (female)? If it’s because of sexual orientation or emotion or feeling, it’s not worth it, sister.
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Love is not possessive. Love does not demand its own way.
There is an eternity with God which I want my beloved to enter.
If I truly love her, I want her to stay right with God. This means she must live the life of the original plan of God for female since creation.
No amount of lust of the flesh or lust of the eyes or whatever that is driven by my five senses including my thoughts (mind and emotion) should cost her eternity with God .
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Some women may say, “but I just don’t feel like a woman does. I am not capable of loving a male amorously. I hate giving birth. I can’t love like a mother does for her children…”
If you are in your teen or twenties, believe in a miracle. If you are older and fixed in your mind and emotion, believe in a miracle. If you are really very old and immovable, believe in a miracle.

I know of retired single Christian women who met their good Christian men and happily married. Girls rejected and abandoned by their own families and societies, and who had given up being female, met Jesus and miraculously transformed into women, wives, mothers. One even became a pastor.

Many have remained single and put their passion to sharing the love of God with the most oppressed and downtrodden on earth. Lives of others are being salvaged and transformed through this group of women who channel their fiery passion for the Kingdom of God. Poverty is being eradicated through vocational and living skills training. They have brought Jesus and His light and hope with them.
These women fight spiritual wickedness bravely at the forefront of social and economic war zone. They are compelled by the love of God.
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Conclusion: life on earth is only a moment in eternity. Miracle does exist. God’s love compels us to love the way He loves.
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1 Corinthians 13:4-8 New Living Translation (NLT)

4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

8 Prophecy and speaking in unknown languages[a] and special knowledge will become useless. But love will last forever! ~~~~

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Why do some women not want to be woman? (3) spirit and gender

In my former posts I put forward two matters which affect our thoughts.
1 God’s view of us.
2 our own view of us.
First, I decided that God does not have particular favor for one or another gender or change His views. His image means His image. We were created in God’s image, male and female,  equally important and precious to God. So we can speak further on this God-platform.
Second, I established that our own view can be shaped by the world at large. Many have studied and written on the subject of social-economic-political factors that influence the soul and self worth. I shall not go deeper there.
Today I want to speak of a third perspective: the spiritual view.
This is the least trodden path and few have walked. Why? Because man are conditioned in using more of our five senses. We have been conditioned to live mainly on the five planes. The spiritual plane has been treated with taboo in the modern world,
in the Christian world especially so.
In principle both Christian and non Christian believe the existence of the spiritual reality. In practice many err in not knowing how to live with such a reality which is unseen.
Christians have a guide book given by God on this matter. We only need to be led by the Holy Spirit. He will tell us all things God wants us to know. God is Spirit. Jesus is Spirit at the right hand of God now. Daily we pray and communicate with the trinity God.
The Bible tells us that there are good and bad spirits in the form of angels. The good ones serve God and some are sent by God to minister for those who will inherit salvation.
Jesus spoke on gender issues as follows: (Luke 20:34-36)
“Marriage is for people here on earth. But in the age to come, those worthy of being raised from the dead will neither marry nor be given in marriage. And they will never die again. In this respect they will be like angels. They are children of God and children of the resurrection.”
In my previous post I quoted what Jesus said about God’s children being born again of the Holy Spirit. “That which is born of the flesh is flesh, and that which is born of the Spirit is spirit.” (John 3:6)
Reading the above we can see that in the flesh we are assigned two genders, male and female who can marry and become one. Jesus spoke on this: “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? “So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate. ” (Matthew 19:4-6)
Summary of above:
We have two parts, flesh (body and soul), and spirit. The flesh part is assigned gender and gender related functionality on earth.
The spirit is born again and communicates with God and one day will be given a new body without gender and return to God.
Again, God does not discriminate against or favor one particular gender. God is Spirit and according to what Jesus said about spirit, has no gender (as defined on earth).
Coming back to the question of why some women do not want to be woman.
I shall give the perspective of a modern educated woman and or one who has been conditioned to put priority on self worth.
When she views herself being threatened or debased in her worth as a woman she might consider giving up being one if given a choice.
This is the same as my conclusion in the previous post.
But today we have touched on another view which the woman has not been exposed to, the spiritual aspect.
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Conclusion: Being born female or male does not make one less human or valuable in God’s eyes.
What matters is that in the born again spirit there is a new creation status not based on gender division.
Gender is for this earth age. In another age there is a brand new existence like the angels without gender for those who make it there.
The woman or man who knows and believes this  phase of spiritual reality is no longer bound by the way the world thinks. There is no extra merit of being either gender in the spirit.
No discrimination by the human world can devalue either gender.
The spiritual perspective is based on the unchangeable principles of God.
So there is no necessity for a woman to want to give up her femaleness.
In modern developed society women can compete with men in many industries and are doing well socially and economically.
The history of the Christian world recorded many women who gave their lives to serve God in dangerous mission fields just as their men counterparts did.
Jesus said, “Anyone who does the will of My Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother! ” (Matthew 12:50).
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I have not touched on the subject of sexual orientation in this discussion. For those interested, please read these three posts with an open heart. See God’s view and purpose from the beginning to end. It’s recorded. I maintain that knowing and believing in the spiritual reality makes the difference. The Holy Spirit gives us the power to live God’s will.
——-Bible books for us to read and meditate upon:
1 Peter and 2 Peter.
“All flesh is as grass,
And all the glory of man as the flower of the grass.
The grass withers,
And its flower falls away,
But the word of the Lord endures forever.”
( 1 Peter 1:24-25)
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God is Spirit. He wants us to worship Him in spirit and in truth.

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Why do some women not want to be women? (2) soul issues

In my previous post I highlighted the difference between the word female and the word woman.
I also showed that the economic and social role of a woman does not redefine and change her gender.
I submitted that reading the Bible, we are told that God created male and female in His image. We cannot find God or Jesus discriminating a woman because of her femaleness.
Instead we find Jesus having male and female disciples and followers. Many women financially supported Jesus and the male disciples. Jesus specifically warns His disciples that unlike the people of the world, no one should lord over others among His followers.
Conclusion from previous post: Being born female or male does not make one less human or les valuable in God’s eyes. In God’s original plan, as demonstrated by Jesus in words and in deeds, the two genders complement each other. Both are of God and from God.
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Today I continue to ask the question why some women do not want to be woman.
I shall try viewing this topic from the soul perspective.
The soul includes our mind and our emotion (feeling).
Our mind is where we think and make decisions. The emotion is how we respond to what and how we think.
Some may believe we are what we think. Yes and no.
Yes, you can become the person whom you think you are.
No, the person is not necessarily the real you created by God.
Whatever influences your thoughts may not be real. Your thoughts can be conditioned.
What condition our mind?  Political-social-economic-cultural-traditional-educational-nurture-factors.
I would caution that up to now it is still very difficult to determine what factors are the causes and what are the effects. The fixed can be variable and vice versa.
However the above factors do affect the way we think, behave and react.
Coming back to the question of why some women do not want to be woman.
For example, having been educated and conditioned to giving high priority to self worth, if my experience with being a woman gives me the worth and well being that I have been conditioned and accustomed to accept as my need and want,  I shall remain happy as a woman.
If I have had really bad and deplorable experiences or the aforementioned factors were threatening my continuing survival being a woman with self worth,  I would think twice of remaining a woman if given a choice.
(I am not saying that there is no woman who would prefer to die if she can’t remain a woman.)
In human history there were cases of female under social economic discrimination and oppression having to disguise as male in order to survive or be free. 
A drama well depicted this reality:
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Plot
Albert Nobbs (Glenn Close) is a woman living as a man in order to find work in the harsh environment of 19th-century Ireland. Albert suppressed her femaleness due to the factors mentioned above.
The story was based on a real person.
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Conclusion from today’s discourse: the self acceptance of a woman in her mind is important to determine whether she wants to be a woman or not. Her thoughts are influenced by a number of external variables.
In the case of Albert Nobbs and Hubert,  it was the desire to be their own boss that drove them to begin and persist. In the case of Albert he persisted for over thirty years, all his youthful life invested in a dream of saving enough tips to buy a place and set up a small business.

I have found that the desire to be independent is quite a strong motivation for a woman not want to remain a woman. This too is a social economic variable.
I shall look at the spiritual variable in my next post.
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