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The woman movement and God, a testimony: my self-esteem which the world cannot touch

romans-122Some women are very angry. They decide to take matters into their own hands and walk down the street to make their voices heard. I know how it hurts or infuriates oneself when one feels that others are not listening, or worse, perhaps mocking or scoffing in their hearts. It hurts to be considered and treated as a second best or third best or not even a human who matters (in some societies). Gender, age, color, race, looks, nationality. All these matter to the physical world. Discrimination means her physical rights and entitlement are taken away from her because of her age, gender, looks, race, color or nationality (even if she has the right color, race, or looks). Indeed, in the fallen world, all men are not born equal. This is not a new issue. Some women may not know this, gender men are not born equal too. Have things improved since the beginning of mankind?  Which is preferred: honesty or hypocrisy? You want an honest opinion and attitude from the heart or you just make do with the superficial legal mandatory physical (material) recognition from fellow citizens in the society? For practical living, mental, emotional and spiritual wellbeing, both are essential.

Do women need to fight for their rights? Can our words and actions change others’ ways of thinking and the generic hearts of mankind? This is the current topic of debate since woman suffrage movement which actually began in 1848, when the first women’s rights convention was held in Seneca Falls, New York, USA. The outstanding (unfinished) issue (in USA) is 169 years old. In this blog dedicated to women I have previously put together many Biblical examples of women in the Bible and how God (the Holy Spirit) viewed them and spoke positively of them and their lives. There are many evidences to show that God has never discriminated against women. The discriminations that some women have encountered past and present in some societies or people groups individually and/or as a group are not from God. Just as the many disasters and bad happenings in this fallen world are not from God but from irresponsible and selfish mankind, bad things that have happened or are still happening to women are from selfish man (mankind) and not God.

We know from history that human laws can be enacted in civil societies. But people’s hearts and attitudes  do not simply change. Mind-set only changes through life transforming encounters in one’s own life. Physical changes are possible but not the heart matters. I learned superficially since young the differences between man and woman, for example, what to do or not to do, where to go or not to go, mainly based on physical abilities and social acceptability and responsibility. I also noted that in cases when the man of the family was unable to carry out his assigned responsibility as the head/bread-earner of the family, the woman stepped in effectively and assumed the responsibility without much debate. It was natural and automatic. She would go out and get a job and supported her children (and husband) when needed. Many women changed their dominant role as housewife to that of a business entrepreneur or corporate executive. Some excelled and became highly respected authoritative professionals in specialized fields traditionally dominated by men, just as some men excelled in fields traditionally dominated by women. Changes through interchanges of physical tasks are not difficult.

The increasing progresses in opening of the education and employment venues to women have contributed to further economic and social advances and material wellbeing of women. On the other hand, there are many records of materially successful self-made women, without the aforementioned institutionalized advantages or privileges. How can this be? This is not new. The Bible recorded many successful godly women in different influential fields: political, military, economic, social and even religious (by being prophets)!

On the other hand, we all know that mankind’s nature has not changed since the existence of history. We can only carry what we are able to carry in true integrity, at the level which each of us is assigned according to the ability each has. Some human has more endowments in certain areas and resources. Some have less. Some resources are gender-related but not all are.

Coming back to how to make people change their mind (attitude and intrinsic value system) about looking down on women or a human because of his or color or race or nationality, I have no answer. I would say that though gender (and many other discriminative) issues seemed important to me once, I do not now consider it a matter that warrants dispute. For example, if you think that being a white woman and treated as a second class citizen in your white country is unfair, try being born as a person without a definite clear gender or being born of a color and race of a country which the world’s popular mass media (which have and still are shaping world view of the world’s population) have traditionally looked down upon. Try being one of those stereotyped caricatured oriental characters in your movies. Indeed, the white culture has been popularized and upheld by many in the global entertainment and game industries which no longer have any boundaries.

My answer to the unfairness of this world is to have an esteem which the world cannot touch. I know my God is real. I have encountered Him. I submit to His words. I also know from my experience that man’s words cannot really change people. The real transformation can only take place just as the very learned and intelligent man, the Apostle Paul, said, “by the renewal of our mind.” The transformation of our mind is the key to knowing God. God has said that we can be joined to Him and one spirit with Him! (1 Corinthians 6:17) In our spirit we can access the real answers to our many questions the world cannot answer. I cannot explain to you how my own mind had been changed. I can only witness to you that you will agree and say Amen when yours too are changed by the renewal of God’s words (with His Spirit). I also urge you to seek to know God now so you know His purpose for you on earth. Life is set in time. Believe me, time does not wait for a person no matter how busy or important you may consider the other matters you are pursuing are.

James 1:20, says that the wrath of man does not accomplish the righteousness of God. Regardless of how appropriate our anger may seem, and regardless of how we think our wrath could make a person or situation change, we will never achieve God’s best that way.

Paul actually said this two thousand years ago, Romans 12:1-2 Amplified Bible (AMP)

12 [a]Therefore I urge you, [b]brothers and sisters, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies [dedicating all of yourselves, set apart] as a living sacrifice, holy and well-pleasing to God, which is your rational (logical, intelligent) act of worship. 2 And do not be conformed to this world [any longer with its superficial values and customs], but be [c]transformed and progressively changed [as you mature spiritually] by the renewing of your mind [focusing on godly values and ethical attitudes], so that you may prove [for yourselves] what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect [in His plan and purpose for you].

Footnotes:
Romans 12:1 Paul now begins outlining for the believer the practical application of the theological truths taught in chs 1-11.
Romans 12:1 Lit brethren.
Romans 12:2 From the Greek word meaning “metamorphosis.” Refers to the process that leads to an outward, permanent change.

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women not want to be women? (6): WWIII scenario

WWIILet us imagine an imminent World War III looming in the near distant future. If we have a woman as the supreme national commander of a great military power in the world to war against another great military power in the world run by a male strongman, whom do you think will have the upper hand? I leave each reader to ponder seriously on this point, which will determine the life and death of every citizen regardless of gender, race, class, ideologies, religions or whatever we may think matter.  Whom do you think will have the caliber to stand up for you in a matter concerning life and death? 

Coming back to one Question I raised for women in my previous blog, “Do women still need men?” In that article I mentioned two traditional male roles: economic and military. The military role is still a key issue in the world, that is, men are needed to fight wars. The last two world wars had demonstrated that men contributed significantly in terms of the number of soldiers who died for their respective nations. Admittedly today’s war equipments/weapons are highly sophisticated and technologically advanced., and a few privileged women may be as effective as men in operating them. In years to come, some women may even use expensive robotics and artificial intelligence to make up for physical disadvantages. But no nation will be foolish enough not to use less costly and more readily available male resources unless there is no option. I have yet to read of any scientific study on comparative advantages of women over men in terms of commanding and operating a real technologically advanced world war. In hand to hand combat over difficult terrain, using brute strength, I would think that an average man has an edge over an average woman. A good example of such physical and even strategic differences is in the sports arena.

Note: In a few previous blogs I may have sounded like a woman chauvinist. In this blog I may have sounded like a man chauvinist. I am neither. I am not speaking on behalf of any gender interest group. I just voice some personal thoughts as an ordinary human.

In summary, I brought out two issues to think about: the choice of the right national leader, and the predominance of male in war. 

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not the weaker sex/gender

charityI feel compelled to say something about the cliché and stereo-typing some people or media use about gender differences. It is wrong and deceptive to keep using the “cliché” that woman belongs to a weaker sex/gender and should be treated likewise. In certain nation the society/community tries to use law to confine woman to the weaker and thus vulnerable social economic political category. I personally do not think that will help to protect woman and children or the aged. Based on my experience from study, travel and observation including interviews, I have found strength in woman that a society obsessed with past tradition and prejudices will not find. It is a real tragedy for one half of mankind to be overlooked this way.
Will woman be protected by a law that emphasizes her weak/vulnerable physical characteristics? An honest study of the nations of the world and you will discover that the answer s a definite NO.
On the other hand nations or societies that emphasize woman’s strength and ability to contribute actually benefit from this positive and realistic outlook and attitude. By now the world is fully aware that brawn and physical force do not rule the world. Brain and religious/spiritual belief do. Woman excels in the latter fields.
Our focus to make the world or our nation a better and safer place for our children and the elderly citizens should not be focused on merely making physical law to restrain as evil can only be restrained and removed when we raise a new generation of socially-responsible, pro-team-building, good-neighborly, non-violent, patient, kind, gentle, nurturing, self-less, and honest people with integrity who are willing and capable to work hard for themselves and for others. Woman by nature has these intrinsic values and can qualify and contribute to this positive nation-building effort tremendously.
Coercive control can only breed discord and hatred. On the subject of focusing on the supposedly risk of man dressed up as woman and infiltrates the toilets to do harm to woman, if you insist on using the Law, to be physically effective you need to post woman armed guards at every public toilet. You need to arm the air-hostesses to guard the airplane toilets. You need to arm all the girls in the co-ed schools. You need to give all the female population training on how to use a gun. You need to give lessons for the physically weaker boys too as they too may become victims. You need to train the older people too, the less advantaged people who are more vulnerable to mugging and violence too, the people of colors that are more subject to being victimized too…the list of the world is endless for the vulnerable.
Conditioning is a powerful weapon. Brain washing has been effectively used by many evil totalitarian regimes until the victims are exposed to another conditioning.
I have no answer to the sorry state of the world.
My personal conviction is to start by positive teaching and good-conditioning of our younger ones on the principles and values set by Jesus. Love does not demand its own way.

1 Corinthians 13 New King James Version (NKJV)
The Greatest Gift
13 Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal. 2 And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3 And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned,[a] but have not love, it profits me nothing.

4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

8 Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part. 10 But when that which is perfect has come, then that which is in part will be done away.

11 When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things. 12 For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I shall know just as I also am known.

13 And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love.

Footnotes:

1 Corinthians 13:3 NU-Text reads so I may boast.

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Why do some women not want to be woman (5): heart relationship issue

hers hersI am reminded that my series of mini posts on the subject is not complete if I leave out the relationship-heart issue.
I shall again state that I do not presume this is comprehensive. I shall also only speak on this subject in relation to the spiritual reality of human existence.
I read of women couples who have lived together and remained committed and faithful to each other for a large part of their adult lives. Some share a family bond which is stronger and more enduring than that of other couples. The faithfulness to each other, love, kindness and honor they treat each other, sustaining consistency and stability of their relationship is exemplary from a humanistic physical and soul view.
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This morning I was pondering over how to say what I need to say from a spiritual view point.
What shall I say to an old couple who have lived happily and peacefully together for over fifty years? They have worked in unison for half a century towards the same goals and contributed to the political social economic issues that matter to them. ~~~~~~
What have I to offer? I have nothing to say in the humanistic physical and soul realm.
In the spiritual realm I would still urge every woman to seek answer in the spirit.
Our spirit goes somewhere after this body is laid to rest.
I still say that the Bible is the most reliable spiritual book.
It is painful to read and you may reject and close your ears and eyes and hearts at first. If you persist and keep reading and listening to the words of God, the initial anger will not stop you to move forward and deeper into the spirit.
No human preaching and lecturing can truly transform. But the Holy Spirit indeed moves with God’s words and releases God’s power to change the way we think from within.
One day the words in their pure form will come crashing down and the meanings will rise in you like the morning stars.
Suddenly you know God is talking to you.
When you are being transformed by the renewing of your mind, you will go through a period of grief and mourning, just as though you have encountered a death: denial, anger, fear, hurt, bargain and sadness.
It is a period of high stress.
The only way to get over it is still through the words of God. The Holy Spirit is the Comforter. He will comfort you.
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If you have loved each other deeply and lived a full life together for a long time, for some almost a whole life time, there’s really no human reason to part.
But if you know the spiritual God and believe in His words and promises, by the power of the Holy Spirit and the faith that God has given you, you can bear the feeling of pain and the practical inconveniences and discomfort.

Should you continue to live together? I have no answer and I shall not be presumptuous. My only guide is a Bible verse that proclaims this, “There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit.” (Romans 8:1)

As what I have concluded in my previous post, the love of God compels and empowers. You can. Out of love for God and for your loved one.
Question: how long will this process take? The Lord will tell you. He will become your best friend.
Just take the first step of faith and He is already pleased.
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Why must it be so hard, so unfair? Some may ask.
I have no answer.
Jesus says that the way to life is through a narrow gate. Living by the Spirit is the narrow way. Living by faith in the unseen God is the narrow way. Believing in Jesus is the narrow way. Believing that the words of God is alive-spirit and life is the narrow way. (John 6:63)
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For my part, I would always question my human love. No human love can ever match the love of God.
One day I heard this from the Lord in my spirit: “What makes you think that I don’t love your loved one more than you do?”
True. No human can out do God where love is concerned.
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Love does not demand its own way. (1 Corinthians 13:5)
No greater love than this:
Jesus gave His life so that we may have life.

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Why do some women not want to be women: (4) sexual orientation

famous-love-quotes GermainGreerI understand it’s not complete if I leave out the issue that some women face: the sexual orientation issue.
The many philosophies and sciences of the world have already given discourses on this subject. I shall not repeat here.
As I have written before I shall look at this from a spiritual perspective.

I shall look at the word called ‘passion’. I shall look at the definition to begin this very sensitive subject :
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Passion is generally defined by dictionary as : strong and barely controllable emotion. Some of the definitions from Dictionary.com are as follows:
1. Any powerful or compelling emotion or feeling, as love or hate.
2. strong amorous feeling or desire; love; ardor.
3. strong sexual desire; lust.
4. an instance or experience of strong love or sexual desire.
5. a person toward whom one feels strong love or sexual desire.

There are many synonyms to the word, all descriptions of highly aroused state of a human being.
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The antonyms: calm, calmness.
Definition of clam: peaceful, quiet.
Synonyms(excerpts ): at a standstill, at peace, cool, harmonious, pastoral, restful, serene, soothing, still, stormless, tranquil, undisturbed, unruffled, waveless, windless
Antonyms: excited, fierce, frenzied, rough, stormy, turbulent, violent, wild.
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Having read to this point, I ask: what is the point?
My personal answer is:
Every woman must ask this question for we only have this brief period on earth. After earth there is eternity.
Like everything else on earth, passion will pass away.
Preparation for eternity has to be our priority.
Sexual desire or emotional wants are parts of human lives on earth. They are not parts of the spiritual eternity we are destined to enter into when this physical existence expires.
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I shall assume the position of a modern educated Bible believing woman here and speak.
Why do some women not want to be women (female)? If it’s because of sexual orientation or emotion or feeling, it’s not worth it, sister.
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Love is not possessive. Love does not demand its own way.
There is an eternity with God which I want my beloved to enter.
If I truly love her, I want her to stay right with God. This means she must live the life of the original plan of God for female since creation.
No amount of lust of the flesh or lust of the eyes or whatever that is driven by my five senses including my thoughts (mind and emotion) should cost her eternity with God .
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Some women may say, “but I just don’t feel like a woman does. I am not capable of loving a male amorously. I hate giving birth. I can’t love like a mother does for her children…”
If you are in your teen or twenties, believe in a miracle. If you are older and fixed in your mind and emotion, believe in a miracle. If you are really very old and immovable, believe in a miracle.

I know of retired single Christian women who met their good Christian men and happily married. Girls rejected and abandoned by their own families and societies, and who had given up being female, met Jesus and miraculously transformed into women, wives, mothers. One even became a pastor.

Many have remained single and put their passion to sharing the love of God with the most oppressed and downtrodden on earth. Lives of others are being salvaged and transformed through this group of women who channel their fiery passion for the Kingdom of God. Poverty is being eradicated through vocational and living skills training. They have brought Jesus and His light and hope with them.
These women fight spiritual wickedness bravely at the forefront of social and economic war zone. They are compelled by the love of God.
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Conclusion: life on earth is only a moment in eternity. Miracle does exist. God’s love compels us to love the way He loves.
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1 Corinthians 13:4-8 New Living Translation (NLT)

4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

8 Prophecy and speaking in unknown languages[a] and special knowledge will become useless. But love will last forever! ~~~~