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story of a young widow: from rags to riches

This young woman encountered the worst tragedies anyone could think of: a sudden death of her husband -the sole bread earner of the family, and he left behind two young sons and a huge debt.  In those days a married woman was considered a mere property of the husband. Her social status came from being a man’s wife. The loss of her husband without any tangible inherited asset meant a total loss of status in the community and an overwhelming financial crisis. We had no knowledge whether she was trained for any commercial skills. If she had any, she would have proceeded to get an employment or make some income. But this woman had no economic solution on her own. Whatever she had in her house were used up to pay the creditor. The lender had the right to repossess everything and even take her children as payment. The creditor was coming to take her two young sons into slavery.

The case of this unnamed woman as recorded in the Bible:
What can we learn from her? How did she cope? What did she do right?

1. She heard God. Instead of waiting for the worst fate to arrive -her two sons taken into slavery by the creditor, she went to ask for help from the right person -her husband’s spiritual teacher and principal of the school of the prophets, Elisha, an accomplished true prophet of God. She told him honestly all she had left was a jar of oil and her two children.

2. She obeyed God. She did exactly what Elisha told her to do, to the minute details: borrow as many as possible empty vessels from all her neighbors, shut the door, together with her sons poured her only jar of oil into those vessels, did not stop until all the vessels were filled thereupon the oil would stop.

3. She believed God’s words through the mouth of the prophet. She and her sons thus witnessed God’s awesome supernatural power of multiplication of physical elements. (This was also miraculously done by Jesus later as recorded in the New Testament’s Gospel of Matthew 14:13-21; 15:32-38)

4. The positive result: She became a woman of wealth*, debt free, and a successful oil business entrepreneur with ongoing profit to support herself and her two sons for the rest of their lives. She could also support their continuing education and training for their called prophetic profession just as their late father had pursued.

5. Whilst the multiplication of the oil was entirely miraculous, the level of the woman’s wealth depended on her faith and action in obedience to the words of promises of God she heard and received as true. At best she could have borrowed a few small jars if she had half believed. But she believed totally. She borrowed lots of big jars. That was why the Prophet Elisha told her she would remain wealthy for the rest of the lives of her and her sons. This revelation opens my eyes -Don’t limit God!

Bible verses: (2 kings 4:1-7)
A certain woman of the wives of the sons of the prophets cried out to Elisha, saying, “Your servant my husband is dead, and you know that your servant feared the Lord. And the creditor is coming to take my two sons to be his slaves.”
So Elisha said to her, “What shall I do for you? Tell me, what do you have in the house?” And she said, “Your maidservant has nothing in the house but a jar of oil.”
Then he said, “Go, borrow vessels from everywhere, from all your neighbors—empty vessels; do not gather just a few. And when you have come in, you shall shut the door behind you and your sons; then pour it into all those vessels, and set aside the full ones.”
So she went from him and shut the door behind her and her sons, who brought the vessels to her; and she poured it out. Now it came to pass, when the vessels were full, that she said to her son, “Bring me another vessel.”
And he said to her, “There is not another vessel.” So the oil ceased. Then she came and told the man of God. And he said, “Go, sell the oil and pay your debt; and you and your sons live on the rest.”

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*Olive oil was considered to be one of the great sources of wealth in the days of King Solomon (cf. I Kings 5:11; II Chronicles 2:10). In biblical days an abundance of oil was a sign of prosperity and favor and a lack of oil was one of the many curses for disobedience (Deut. 28:40). The oil of olives was widely known and used during most of Bible History. It had a wide variety of applications, and was a valuable commodity. It was used for anointing the living and the dead, for sacred offerings, for lighting lamps (in the Tabernacle, Temple or in ordinary people’s homes), cooking and medicinally. It was also used in personal grooming, and as an ingredient in some soaps (as it still is).

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Famous fearless women 2

queen Esther and Purim

Queen Esther and Purim

The historical record of Queen Esther, another fearless godly woman clearly shows the hands of God in her life. The whole amazing life and death episode for a whole people group as recorded (in excerpts) in the following passages took place over a brief period of ten years. The planned timings were strategic and flawless. It was supernatural and divine. What was Esther’s role then? She was fearless and faithful to execute God’s plan. Neither the powerful king of Persia nor his second in command, Haman (an enemy of the Jews) knew of the true identity of Esther, a Jewish girl. God’s hand selected and planted her in the midst of the brewing storm and she proved her worth.

Summary on significant timings of events concerning the powerful king of Persia:

  1. On the third year of the king’s reign he gave a party during which his first wife (Queen Vashti) publicly dishonored him and thus lost her royal position.
  2. On the seventh year of the king’s reign, Esther (a Jewish girl) was made queen to replace Queen Vashti and her uncle Mordecai became a palace official. Mordecai was strategically positioned to discover a plot to assassinate the king and saved him in time.
  3. Sometime later the king promoted Haman to be the most powerful official in the empire. During the twelfth year of the king’s reign, Haman plotted the massacre of all the Jews in the empire and manipulated the king to issue the decree of death to the Jews.
  4. Mordecai told Esther and Esther instituted a fast for three days before she entered the presence of the king with boldness and wisdom.
  5. Because of the strategic positions of both Queen Esther and Mordecai in the king’s court, the Jews in the Persian Empire were saved. Their arch-enemy Haman was impaled on his own gallows (originally constructed to hang Mordecai).
  6. Within two months (70 days) from the time of Haman’s murderous scheme to the ascension of Queen Esther and Mordecai, the fate of the Jews was divinely intervened and transformed, in which they gained the king’s royal decree to defend their lives.
  7. Within a year on the appointed date to execute both decrees (one of which marked for death by the decree of the same king), the Jews indeed overcame their enemies with the decree for life. Life triumphed over death!

Reading of the Bible verses from Esther (excerpts):

1:1 These events happened in the days of King Xerxes, who reigned over 127 provinces stretching from India to Ethiopia. 2 At that time Xerxes ruled his empire from his royal throne at the fortress of Susa. 3 In the third year of his reign, he gave a banquet for all his nobles and officials. He invited all the military officers of Persia and Media as well as the princes and nobles of the provinces. 4 The celebration lasted 180 days—a tremendous display of the opulent wealth of his empire and the pomp and splendor of his majesty. 9 Queen Vashti also made a feast for the women in the royal palace which belonged to King Xerxes. 12 But Queen Vashti refused to come at the king’s command brought by his eunuchs; therefore the king was furious, and his anger burned within him.

2:16 Esther was taken to King Xerxes at the royal palace in early winter of the seventh year of his reign. 17 And the king loved Esther more than any of the other young women. He was so delighted with her that he set the royal crown on her head and declared her queen instead of Vashti. 18 To celebrate the occasion, he gave a great banquet in Esther’s honor for all his nobles and officials, declaring a public holiday for the provinces and giving generous gifts to everyone. 19… and Mordecai had become a palace official. 21 One day as Mordecai was on duty at the king’s gate, two of the king’s eunuchs, Bigthana and Teresh—who were guards at the door of the king’s private quarters—became angry at King Xerxes and plotted to assassinate him. 22 But Mordecai heard about the plot and gave the information to Queen Esther. She then told the king about it and gave Mordecai credit for the report.

3:1 Some time later King Xerxes promoted Haman son of Hammedatha the Agagite over all the other nobles, making him the most powerful official in the empire. 5 When Haman saw that Mordecai would not bow down or show him respect, he was filled with rage. 6 He had learned of Mordecai’s nationality, so he decided it was not enough to lay hands on Mordecai alone. Instead, he looked for a way to destroy all the Jews throughout the entire empire of Xerxes.
3:7 So in the month of April, during the twelfth year of King Xerxes’ reign, lots were cast in Haman’s presence (the lots were called Purim) to determine the best day and month to take action. And the day selected was March 7, nearly a year later.

4:15 Then Esther sent this reply to Mordecai: 16 “Go and gather together all the Jews of Susa and fast for me. Do not eat or drink for three days, night or day. My maids and I will do the same. And then, though it is against the law, I will go in to see the king. If I must die, I must die.” 17 So Mordecai went away and did everything as Esther had ordered him.

5:1 On the third day of the fast, Esther put on her royal robes and entered the inner court of the palace, just across from the king’s hall. The king was sitting on his royal throne, facing the entrance. When he saw Queen Esther standing there in the inner court, he welcomed her and held out the gold scepter to her. So Esther approached and touched the end of the scepter.

8:9 So on June 2 the king’s secretaries were summoned, and a decree was written exactly as Mordecai dictated. It was sent to the Jews and to the highest officers, the governors, and the nobles of all the 127 provinces stretching from India to Ethiopia. The decree was written in the scripts and languages of all the peoples of the empire, including that of the Jews.

9:1 So on March 7 the two decrees of the king were put into effect. On that day, the enemies of the Jews had hoped to overpower them, but quite the opposite happened. It was the Jews who overpowered their enemies. The Jews gathered in their cities throughout all the king’s provinces to attack anyone who tried to harm them. But no one could make a stand against them, for everyone was afraid of them. And all the nobles of the provinces, the highest officers, the governors, and the royal officials helped the Jews for fear of Mordecai. For Mordecai had been promoted in the king’s palace, and his fame spread throughout all the provinces as he became more and more powerful.

Famous Fearless Women 1

Luke 1-45Why are some women fearless? Who are those women? Why should women be fearless? Mary, the Mother of Jesus on earth is one of them. It is not easy to write afresh about Mary. What revelation is there other than the obvious which every church has taught? The Scripture will show us.

Here is a brief list of spiritual characteristics about Mary, based on the Gospel of Luke (Chapter one).

  1. She sees, hears and converses with angels without fear. The angel Gabriel was sent to her and spoke to her. She saw him and was “troubled” at his saying but she did not faint and pass out at the phenomena. (1:19)
  2. She is a thoughtful and careful young woman. she considered what manner of the angel’s greeting was. (1:19)
  3. She remains calm and rational. After hearing him out she asked question about the practicality of the announcement. She was engaged but had not yet married or had intimate relationship with a man so how could she give birth to a child? She questioned the angel/God’s messenger boldly. (1:34)
  4. She is spiritual. She knew the angel came from God and the message for her was from God. (1:38, 47)
  5. She believes those prophetic words about the forthcoming supernatural event. (1:38)
  6. She accepts her role in this supernatural event. (1:38)
  7. She believes in the power of God. (1:38)
  8. She expresses her willingness to undertake her role in God’s divine plan. (1:38)
  9. She considers it an honor. (1:48)
  10. She takes immediate action to go to her most trusted social support as led by the Holy Spirit. (1:39-44, 56)
  11. She is well-versed in the words of God. She believes in the supernatural power of God’s words. (1:46-55)
  12. She knows and trusts God. (1:45-55)

Can Mary be described as a fearless woman? Yes. She has displayed great boldness and courage in accepting her role in this divine appointment and assignment. What is her secret for success? She is fearless. What makes her fearless?

The answer is in John’s description of God (1 John 4) we know that God is love. God’s love is perfect. Perfect love casts out fear. Mary abides in love –God. God’s love is the divine power that carries her all the way to fulfillment of her role in history. The crucial word “relationship” with God stands out in Mary’s life! She has a close relationship with God and knows God’s true nature.

“Blessed is she who believed, for there will be a fulfillment of those things which were told her from the Lord.” (Luke 1:45)

How can we apply what we learn today? By the Holy Spirit. “By this we know that we abide in God, and He in us, because He has given us of His Spirit.” (1 John 4:13)

23 July 2018

awakening women in economics

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“Women have awoken.” Some reporters/editors/media opinion might describe women this way when they pen some news about women taking part in some public group actions occasionally. Let us not congratulate ourselves too soon as we read their remark. The remark implies only one thing: women/some women had been sleeping beauties all this while. This is of course nonsense.

For the information of the uninitiated, most women have always been wide awake. We know what goes on. But we just do not talk about it with you. We also know better than to join ourselves with actions which we know are subject to manipulations by ulterior motive/secret agenda with which we do not agree. Why should we lend you our strength? We each have one vote with equal power as yours. We speak with votes. We are the silent but effective majority.

What are our agenda? We are committed to taking care of and training our children on the right track for their future. We know what it means if we support a social/cultural/political misconception that it is good to steal from another’s purse. No, we are not proud of any form of stealing (in whatever nice name/philosophy like “equal-distribution” you may dress it). Why? Because it can only mean one thing: that our children are inferior and must have some forms of handicaps to help them to survive. No. We are not proud of that connotation. We are not proud of being classified by any classification that would render us to be subject to handout/quota/special treatment. We refuse to wear that hat.

Traditionally, once upon a time, in fairy tales, women were admired for being sleeping beauties. But, man, get real. We are wide awake and we have purposed in our hearts to impart to our children the awake values and strategies: just, honest, ethical, motivated, diligent, intelligent, and wise, committed to a profession, a trade, a craft, a labor, a work effort and a production in prospering the economy, social development and nation building. Yes, you will be surprised, we women know economics better than you do.

Judges 5:12 New King James Version (NKJV)
12 “Awake, awake, Deborah!
Awake, awake, sing a song!
Arise, Barak, and lead your captives away,
O son of Abinoam!

Family Series – Audio Teaching – Andrew Wommack Ministries

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GENESIS 2:18 GENESIS 2:18 And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”

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The woman movement and God, a testimony: does God care about you?

Isaiah 49:15This is relevant today. Some women are still angry with God and with their issues that seem not resolved because of many man-made blockages. Please read on…

1 Corinthians 11:11 Nevertheless, neither is man independent of woman, nor woman independent of man, in the Lord. 12 For as woman came from man, even so man also comes through woman; but all things are from God.

a fifty percent perspective

romans-122Some women are very angry. They decide to take matters into their own hands and walk down the street to make their voices heard. I know how it hurts or infuriates oneself when one feels that others are not listening, or worse, perhaps mocking or scoffing in their hearts. It hurts to be considered and treated as a second best or third best or not even a human who matters (in some societies). Gender, age, color, race, looks, nationality. All these matter to the physical world. Discrimination means her physical rights and entitlement are taken away from her because of her age, gender, looks, race, color or nationality (even if she has the right color, race, or looks). Indeed, in the fallen world, all men are not born equal. This is not a new issue. Some women may not know this, gender men are not born equal too. Have things improved since…

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woman issue (part three): what can one woman do?

a-godly-business-woman-lydiaI realize the subject is too big to handle in a tiny personal blog. When I read up more about women in nations where they are still being overtly ill-treated I admit I cannot use this blog to address big issues. I ponder over the matter and ask why I write this blog about women. Shall I quote more statistics of the inequality based on online sources? Shall I do a research over a period of two years just to be more in depth? Who are my readers and what do I hope to say to them and why? I then realize I cannot do a study and write a thesis. My targets are not thesis readers. This is only a personal blog and I can only focus on what I know and believe as important to write about. Here are some of my own Q and A:

Q: why do you write this blog?
A: I am led in my spirit to write on this topic right now. I can feel an urgency because some women somewhere are going to make major decisions this year and they are looking for options to consider.

Q: do you honestly think you can influence lots of women this way?
A: honestly I do not presume anything about influencing people.

Q: then why do you write?
A: I ask the same question. The prompt I receive is I can write to individuals and not groups or masses. If only one woman ventures to this blog and reads the articles about women issues, I would consider it very worthwhile. Because she may have found the exact answer she is looking for.

Q: but you only presented your perspective and not inclusive of others.
A: yes. I know. I ask myself the same question too. I can choose to quote many different reports and write a thesis of course. But as I said earlier this is a personal blog and not a scientific journal. My approach is therefore very different.

Q: where do you find your materials to write?
A: I believe in knowing something intuitively (in Christian terms, hearing the Holy Spirit). I would know when I should write and on what topic. I receive a prompting inside.

Q: since the women issue scope is so huge how do you know what to focus on?
A: I have so far written two posts. The first one focused on assuring a woman of her spiritual worth in the eyes of God, and the second one touched on how a woman could shift her paradigm -a management tool I have used successfully. I have not thought out the third one yet. But I am still thinking along expanding the twin lines of building spiritual strength and how to become more effective in employment-related matters.

Q: do you realize you have limited your target to women who can read English and have access to this blog?
A: yes, I know. As I said earlier, this is just a personal blog and I am a blogger here. However, I still believe that there are some women who are making big decisions this year and want to know more options. So I pray this blog will present you with the options that you have never thought of but have been praying for.

Bible passages to ponder on:
Joshua 17:3 (NKJV)
But Zelophehad…the son of Manasseh, had no sons, but only daughters. And these are the names of his daughters: Mahlah, Noah, Hoglah, Milcah, and Tirzah. 4 And they came near before Eleazar the priest, before Joshua the son of Nun, and before the rulers, saying, “The Lord commanded Moses to give us an inheritance among our brothers.” Therefore, according to the commandment of the Lord, he gave them an inheritance among their father’s brothers.

Acts 2:17
‘And it shall come to pass in the last days, says God, That I will pour out of My Spirit on all flesh; Your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, Your young men shall see visions, Your old men shall dream dreams.

Acts 16:13-15 (NKJV)
13 And on the Sabbath day we went out of the city to the riverside, where prayer was customarily made; and we sat down and spoke to the women who met there. 14 Now a certain woman named Lydia heard us. She was a seller of purple from the city of Thyatira, who worshiped God. The Lord opened her heart to heed the things spoken by Paul. 15 And when she and her household were baptized, she begged us, saying, “If you have judged me to be faithful to the Lord, come to my house and stay.” So she persuaded us.
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current woman gender issue and resolute for 2018 and beyond (part two): economic issue and key to success

Proverbs 31:2526What is a woman’s true worth? In my previous post I presented her spiritual worth. This morning I started writing this post to address women economic issues. But I was halted by a name while browsing through “The Economist“, “History proves that the capitalist system works. The countries endowed with free minds and private property rights have been the fastest-growing and the most prosperous.” “Free enterprise helped far more than feminism—household appliances ended drudgery. Above all: marriage was the best deal ever devised for women.” (Phyllis Schlafly)

Phyllis is a different breed of woman issue champion and speaks differently from others on the subject. She has a no-nonsense style and gets to the gist of the issue. Instead of making women to bear more economic responsibilities and financial burdens, she speaks plainly (my interpretation) to the men. “Man, we American women hold you responsible to upkeep us and the children. Man, be responsible! No, man, don’t ever think of passing the buck to us women!” Here are some of her classic sensible words of wisdom taken from various internet sources: My personal comments are in brackets.

The best way to improve economic prospects for women is to improve job prospects for the men in their lives, even if that means increasing the so-called pay gap. (Go for it, guys! it’s you job to aim higher -higher pay jobs!)

Women have babies and men provide the support. If you don’t like the way we’re made you’ve got to take it up with God. (Clear cut responsibility. Fair play, guys. Stop your nonsensical excuses. Just pay up.)

American women are so fortunate. When I got married, all I wanted in the world was a dryer so I didn’t have to hang up my diapers. And now women have paper diapers and all sorts of conveniences in the home. And it is the man and the technology that has made the home such a pleasant place for women to be. (“American women are so fortunate. ‘Sigh…” from women from other parts of the world…)

Since the women are the ones who bear the babies and there’s nothing we can do about that, our laws and customs then make it the financial obligation of the husband to provide the support. It is his obligation and his sole obligation. And this is exactly and precisely what we will lose if the Equal Rights Amendment is passed. (It’s a man’s obligatory responsibility issue, man! Woman, never give up your upper hand! It is his problem and not yours!)

Feminists have convinced themselves that any difference between men and women is oppression and that women in the United States are an oppressed minority. This is such a lie. American women are the most fortunate class of people who ever lived on the face of the earth. We can do anything we want to do. (Sigh…many third world women would wish they were Americans!)

Men should stop treating feminists like ladies, and instead treat them like the men they say they want to be. (Honestly, I believe a man certainly knows the difference between a man and a woman.)

The feminist movement taught women to see themselves as victims of an oppressive patriarchy. … Self-imposed victimhood is not a recipe for happiness. (I agree to not proclaiming negative words on ourselves!)

In colleges, there are no gender separations in courses of study, and students can freely choose their majors. There are no male and female math classes. But women generally choose college courses that pay less in the labor market. Those are the choices that women themselves make. Those choices contribute to the pay gap… (I agree with this as you can read my sharing on key to success below!)

I don’t believe that everybody should be paid the same. I believe in equal pay for equal work. (Well said, ma’am!)

My college degree is from a great university in 1944. I got my master’s at Harvard graduate school, completely co-ed, in 1945. My mother got her college degree in 1920. What’s the problem? Those opportunities were always there for women. (Thumbs up to these pioneers!)

What I am defending is the real rights of women. A woman should have the right to be in the home as a wife and mother. (I cannot comment because I am neither. But I do enjoy the regular lengthy visits from younger relatives ranging from infants to young adults. I consider them as God’s grace.)

If the woman picks the wrong man, that’s not society’s problem. That’s her problem. (This again relates to the success key of “careful choosing” and preparation as I share below about economic success.)

There are many choices out there for young women. And you have to ask yourself whether you want to model your life on the women who let life pass them by and who spend their lives thinking they were victims and that men are the enemy. Or do you want to have a happy life with a successful marriage and 14 lovely grandchildren. The choices are out there. (AGREED! Again a matter of making good and right choices of models.)

The United States is a giant island of freedom, achievement, wealth and prosperity in a world hostile to our values. (Claps!)

In a world of inhumanity, war and terrorism, American citizenship is a very precious possession. (SIGH from men and women from other nations, “Don’t we already know? Why else do you think we want to become your citizens/residents?)

The European nations’ loss of sovereignty to the EU should be a warning to Americans. It is a mystery why any Americans would support the concept of the EU. (Ma’am, certainly a mystery to many of us from the rest of the world too.)

Location is the key to most businesses, and the entrepreneurs typically build their reputation at a particular spot. (I included this quote because it is relevant to women as a start-up entrepreneur. It is the simplest and least costly way to test out your business plan and products. The best network is relationship based from locals already know you well, trust you and even support your business efforts. This is a wise beginner’s move before you try virtual network selling on internet.)

This blogger’s notes:
Last night I did a search and came upon the unique case of Rwanda women. Rwanda has the highest number (63.8%) of women parliamentarians. One reason was that after the genocide the president decided to make up for the shortage of men by giving women legal entrances to the previously closed doors of offices. Yet, the significant representation of women did not change the society and family. Here is an excerpt of an article:

“she returned to Rwanda to interview female politicians about their lives — not just their public positions but their private lives, with their husbands and children. She found with rare exception that no matter how powerful these women were in public, that power didn’t extend into their own homes.
“One told me how her husband expected her to make sure that his shoes were polished, the water was put in the bathroom for him, his clothes were ironed,” Justine says. And this husband wanted not only his shoes laid out in the morning, but his socks placed on top of the shoes. And he wanted it done by his wife, the parliamentarian.”  The women’s explanation was that they were Rwandans.
(https://www.npr.org/sections/goatsandsoda/2016/07/29/487360094/invisibilia-no-one-thought-this-all-womans-debate-team-could-crush-it)

The article about an African nation is not new as a few years back I have seen the same public-private discrepancy  in an Asian country which went through a genocide. Many women became sole bread earners and raised up their children. The matriarch had decision making authority and financial responsibility in the family. But in the community they remained silent, demure, graceful and uninvolved in the men’s social-political world.

Africa and Asia may be different from America. Phyllis McAlpin Schlafly née Stewart (August 15, 1924 – September 5, 2016) was an American constitutional lawyer and conservative political activist. She was known for staunchly conservative social and political views. She was well educated, informed and highly qualified and yet she remained contentedly married and enjoyed her role as a wife, mother, and grandmother. She has made a pertinent point: When it is a win-win situation between genders, why not continue the win-win?

In developing world, when a family man is unwilling or is unable to pay his dues and be faithful husband and responsible father, the woman steps into the role of the bread winner in lieu of the husband. This is a global generic issue throughout the history of mankind. In these cases the women show their willingness and capability to do so.

Some richer nations use public funds to subsidize the qualified poor and unemployed. However, Many developing countries cannot afford such luxury.  As men flock to work in the growing cities for better pays their families are left behind. Often the men’s wages can barely support their costly city lives and their wives and children have to survive on their own means. Some non-profit organizations give women and children hygiene/basic healthcare, education, vocational skill and trade training. Many women become sole bread-winners.

But what about the issue of unequal pay for certain groups of women, the economically poor, and colored (non-white) women in a predominantly male governing society?  I have no answer. I would suggest you read my following testimony carefully and perhaps find your own key.

A generic advice to both genders: Have I been given less pay or less promotion opportunities despite equal merits due to whatever prejudices or discriminations? My honest answer is “NO”.

  1. The reason was I chose my field of study and employers carefully. The key is: “Choose wisely”. Choose with planning and hard work of preparation accompanied by a lifelong positive outlook, enduring optimism for success and persistent learning new knowledge (always at a few steps ahead of others in the pack, man or woman).
  2. *In my case I believe in having a close relationship with God trusting in His grace (undeserved favor). It works. Ask God for the right job, geographical location, people group, employer, bosses, pay and promotion timing. Above all, maintain who you really are, a woman/man of worth in God’s eyes. The Bible has given good promises for success for both women and men. Use them. Be willing to shift your paradigm and relocate when you are called. “Relocation” is my second key word to success.
  3. What have you been doing in the past if you are one of those who feel that you are a loser because of your____________(race, color, gender, class, and whatever)? Have your past strategies worked? What has or has not worked for you/others? What can you do to make things work? Can you find good successful role models who has proven by bountiful good fruits to emulate? These are just some random pragmatic questions I would ask you to ponder on. If you are already a Christian, then my best advice for you is to pray and ask God to open up good choices and relocations (including the necessary training and equipping) as testified above.*

One cautionary word to those women who do not already know: “Don’t think that in a man’s mind/heart a woman is like a man.” You can try. But you are just not. I have asked women, “do you want to change place with a man?” So far the answer is often a strange look meaning,”What, are you nuts?” or a laugh and a definite “NO! No Way!” So I have concluded that women are really smart. We know our secret God-given gifts and advantages which men do not have. On the other hand, man, you too have your God-given gifts and advantages that women do not have. You just have to find out what your special gifts are.

Read King Solomon’s description of his capable mom: Proverbs 31:10-31, a capable and loyal wife, wise and good mother, successful and wealthy business woman who is fair to her workers and kind to the poor. Above all, her King son summed her up as “a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised.” 21 Bible verses were dedicated to record this wonder woman. What an honor!